ALERT: You are an adult. You no longer need someone else’s permission. You can give yourself permission. Stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to DO, to BE, to HAVE what you want. As an adult you get to do that. Give yourself permission to: Ask for what you want. Make a mistake. […]
The stories that limit us
We are story making creatures. Our brain is neuro-biologically wired for stories. In the white space of not knowing … our brain creates a story. Usually the stories we tell ourselves create prison walls + keep us away from the possibilities for our lives. My client Natalie had one of those stories. She works in […]
Stop using “busy” to measure happiness
My client used busy as a status symbol for happiness. If she was busy, she thought, she could prove to others she was worthy … and therefore would be happy. Sure, busy fills up that vulnerable white space we covet, but are so afraid of because we are then alone with ourselves. If you don’t […]
Overcoming Obstacles
A couple of obstacles parents have told me about recently … “My daughter didn’t want to put on her new suit for swim practice.” “My teen wasn’t happy about getting out of bed for the swim meet.” What causes people pain is the belief that obstacles shouldn’t be happening. While the parent of a teen […]
Ready to quit? Hold on a minute…
You’re not sure. Whether to stay in your marriage, to stay in your job, rebuild that connection in your family, or to finally lose weight after so many failed attempts. Sure, you can quit. That would be fine. Get a divorce. Find a new job. Put up walls with your family and call them all […]
I grew up poor in an alcoholic home
I’m blown away at the life I’ve created for myself. If you don’t know my story, I was a girl who once believed “she was a loser born on loser street.” I grew up poor in an alcoholic home. My parents really loved us … however there was just a lot, a whole lot, of […]
The perfectionism gap
I help my clients stop pursuing living a perfect life and instead live the life they want on their terms. Here’s the problem… perfection is the birthplace of shame. You know that awful feeling inside that tells you: You are bad! You are not enough! There’s something wrong with you! You don’t belong here! […]
Why are you living in a swamp?
Do you overindulge in the drama of your life? When a friend calls, do you start the conversation with what’s not going well? Most people live in the swampland of shame, because they don’t know any better. Instead of focusing on where they want to go, they talk about how horrible it is to live […]
Your next shit storm is right around the corner. Are you prepared?
It’s a lie to believe you can somehow set up a life free of shit storms. The storm is coming … are you prepared? Shit storms are where growth occurs and transformation can happen. Your brain tells you to play it safe … “No shit storms allowed.” However, without them you’d stagnate, and you don’t […]
Parenting is one of the bravest things we do
Parenting is one of the bravest things we do. It’s hard. We are vulnerable and no matter how hard we try to protect ourselves, we are guaranteed to face uncertainty, emotional exposure and risk. While I was “sure” at 20 that I would never expose myself to the vulnerability of raising kids, life had other […]
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