One of the lies we tell ourselves is that if we stay busy enough, we can outrun our pain. The pain comes from the stories inside ourselves. You know … that voice in the back of your head that keeps saying all those mean things about you? Busy is a way to numb and distract […]
You suck at self-compassion
You know self-compassion is what you’re supposed to do Self-compassion is the antidote to shame. Self-compassion is the pathway for you to cultivate your own worthiness. BUT … you suck at being self-compassionate! So, what do you do? CAUTION: This is the beginning of a downward spiral of self-beating and self-hatred, only getting you further […]
I didn’t believe transformation was possible for me
Seems like it was another lifetime ago. I was skeptical. I was judgmental. I was filled with self-loathing. I was exhausted … And I was hopeful for something better. It was 2001 + I happened upon Oprah interviewing Julia Roberts on her show. I hadn’t watched it since the late ‘80s, I wasn’t that kind […]
When your insides don’t match your outsides …
Does any of this sound familiar? You’ve achieved great success in your career … but you still second guess yourself. You’ve created a good professional life … but your personal life doesn’t match. You’re smart and have the degrees to prove it … but you still believe you are a fraud. On the outside you […]
How to create your best marriage
You think to create your best life, you must leave your marriage. My clients think the same thing. While I’m not a marriage counselor, I’ve helped heal a lot of painful marriages. You see, we are story making creatures. Our brains love stories. Our brains are fantastic at writing a drama. And if your brain […]
Do you believe in YOU?
Believing in YOU is vulnerable. There’s a ton of risk …. what will others think??? We’ve been programmed to not be “too much.” My friend … believing in yourself is not being too much. Think about all those little toddlers who believe in themselves. We adore them. They believe in their ability to crawl, to […]
We want the promise without the heartache
We’ve been culturally programmed to pursue the promise. If I do X, then Y will occur. EXAMPLE PROMISES If you are a good girl, you’ll have a good life. If you’re highly educated, you + your family will be safe. If you’re perfect, you’ll finally be good enough. If you’re good enough, you’ll find a […]
I’m rethinking my People magazine subscription
A while back I wrote about wanting to be a person who read The New Yorker…but that I really wanted to read People magazine. I gave myself permission to get a subscription to People magazine. It’s been a fascinating experiment. At first I was so excited when it came in the mail. But it quickly […]
How to become your own best friend
Many years ago I was doing a consult with a potential client. I asked her about the end result she wanted to achieve. She told me she wanted to be her own best friend. At first I thought that was a bit “fluffy.” Then I realized how wrong I was and how valuable it is […]
Who’s Controlling Whom?
My client was frustrated with her mother. As an adult daughter, my client viewed her mother as controlling. Sound familiar? Oh those mother-daughter relationships. When she views her mother as controlling, my client gets: Short with her mother. Gives herself permission to indulge in her self-destructive behaviors. Has a party in her mouth with food. […]
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