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Busy

February 8, 2022 by Koren Motekaitis

One of the lies we tell ourselves is that if we stay busy enough, we can outrun our pain. The pain comes from the stories inside ourselves. You know … that voice in the back of your head that keeps saying all those mean things about you? Busy is a way to numb and distract […]

Filed Under: Career, Children & Family, Lifestyle

You suck at self-compassion

February 1, 2022 by Koren Motekaitis

You know self-compassion is what you’re supposed to do Self-compassion is the antidote to shame. Self-compassion is the pathway for you to cultivate your own worthiness. BUT … you suck at being self-compassionate! So, what do you do? CAUTION: This is the beginning of a downward spiral of self-beating and self-hatred, only getting you further […]

Filed Under: Conversations with Koren

I didn’t believe transformation was possible for me

January 25, 2022 by Koren Motekaitis

Seems like it was another lifetime ago.  I was skeptical. I was judgmental. I was filled with self-loathing. I was exhausted … And I was hopeful for something better. It was 2001 + I happened upon Oprah interviewing Julia Roberts on her show.  I hadn’t watched it since the late ‘80s, I wasn’t that kind […]

Filed Under: Mindset, Motivation

When your insides don’t match your outsides …

January 18, 2022 by Koren Motekaitis

Does any of this sound familiar? You’ve achieved great success in your career … but you still second guess yourself. You’ve created a good professional life … but your personal life doesn’t match. You’re smart and have the degrees to prove it … but you still believe you are a fraud. On the outside you […]

Filed Under: Emotions, Work, Worthiness

How to create your best marriage

January 11, 2022 by Koren Motekaitis

You think to create your best life, you must leave your marriage. My clients think the same thing. While I’m not a marriage counselor, I’ve helped heal a lot of painful marriages. You see, we are story making creatures. Our brains love stories. Our brains are fantastic at writing a drama. And if your brain […]

Filed Under: Children & Family, Relationships

Do you believe in YOU?

January 4, 2022 by Koren Motekaitis

Believing in YOU is vulnerable. There’s a ton of risk …. what will others think??? We’ve been programmed to not be “too much.” My friend … believing in yourself is not being too much. Think about all those little toddlers who believe in themselves.  We adore them. They believe in their ability to crawl, to […]

Filed Under: Conversations with Koren, Courage

We want the promise without the heartache

December 28, 2021 by Koren Motekaitis

We’ve been culturally programmed to pursue the promise. If I do X, then Y will occur. EXAMPLE PROMISES If you are a good girl, you’ll have a good life. If you’re highly educated, you + your family will be safe. If you’re perfect, you’ll finally be good enough. If you’re good enough, you’ll find a […]

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I’m rethinking my People magazine subscription

December 21, 2021 by Koren Motekaitis

A while back I wrote about wanting to be a person who read The New Yorker…but that I really wanted to read People magazine. I gave myself permission to get a subscription to People magazine. It’s been a fascinating experiment. At first I was so excited when it came in the mail. But it quickly […]

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How to become your own best friend

December 14, 2021 by Koren Motekaitis

Many years ago I was doing a consult with a potential client. I asked her about the end result she wanted to achieve. She told me she wanted to be her own best friend. At first I thought that was a bit “fluffy.” Then I realized how wrong I was and how valuable it is […]

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Who’s Controlling Whom?

December 7, 2021 by Koren Motekaitis

My client was frustrated with her mother.  As an adult daughter, my client viewed her mother as controlling.  Sound familiar? Oh those mother-daughter relationships. When she views her mother as controlling, my client gets: Short with her mother. Gives herself permission to indulge in her self-destructive behaviors. Has a party in her mouth with food. […]

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