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Maybe this is as good as it gets?

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Do you remember the 1997 movie As Good as It Gets? Jack Nicholson and Helen Hunt playing people who were settling for a good-enough life. I hated that movie.  Because it was my life and I didn’t want to accept it. Even back then, I knew I was climbing the wrong career ladder. I was […]

The cost of complaining

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There’s an internal rumbling. It’s uncomfortable. It’s painful. All you want to do is get rid of it. You do that by complaining. You find short-term relief by letting it out. By complaining, you’re offloading your pain onto someone else. It feels good  … kind of like throwing up after a big ole’ tummy ache. […]

Say no. And stick to it.

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If I say no, people will think I am mean. Only mean people say no. If you believe no = meanness, then you will have a hard time saying no.  Your guilt will override your logic and your desires. In order to be able to say no to things you don’t want to do and […]

Trying vs. Doing

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This is what TRY looks like: I’m trying to figure out the foods that fuel my body I’m trying to lose weight I’m trying to date I’m trying to be compassionate with myself I’m trying to lead my team at work. These are some of the things I hear from my clients.  I ask, why […]

Enjoy the mess, it’s part of the journey

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You don’t like mess. You don’t like things to be messy. I am not talking about your physical space. I am talking about your relationships, communication, your work, families and friendships. Maybe you’re afraid to have a difficult conversation with your friend because you’re worried it will end the friendship. Maybe your marriage doesn’t look […]

Honor commitments to yourself

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The idea of honoring commitments to yourself probably sounds brilliant, or completely ridiculous. Brilliant because when you honor commitments to yourself, you are taking care of yourself. You are getting stuff done. You are proud of yourself. Ridiculous because if you suck at honoring commitments to yourself you have a long list of reasons how […]

Work is taking over your life …

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You want to do work you love. You want to enjoy your life outside of work, but your work is taking over your life. Did you know all jobs have delightful attributes as well as obstacles to overcome? Yes, there are obstacles. Yes, your job is to overcome them, not flee from them to another […]

To lead you must own yourself

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Last week I ran a training session for one of my private clients.  We did the Dare to Lead™ training workshop based on the work of Brené Brown.   My client owns her business with 3 other partners.  She often explains to me that she is not the leader, they are all equal partners. But what […]

DON’T ANSWER TEXTS … IF YOU CAN’T ANSWER!

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I was in the middle of a text conversation with someone I care about. There was some vulnerable sharing that was occuring in the texts. The problem I have with texting … I don’t have to be fully committed to the “conversation.” I can get distracted + stop texting. Thereby, ghosting the other person. This […]

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