I get it…you aren’t sure. ….What if you’re wrong? …What if you’re mistaken? ….Maybe someone else knows better? My friend, while it can seem lovely for others to believe in you…it’s just not sustainable. It’s less vulnerable to have others believe in you, than for you to believe in you…and quite possibly be wrong. Here’s […]
How to show up in life when you feel like a fraud
You think you’re a fraud. You don’t know how to show up in your life because of this story. So you hide away. You don’t show up. You don’t speak out. You don’t create what you want in your life. Let’s take a look at the definition of fraud: “A person or thing intended to […]
Why You Need to Become the BADASS Version of YOURSELF
Recently while talking to someone … they asked me about the connection between being ENOUGH and being a BADASS version of YOU … He believed “being ENOUGH was settling. Instead of settling shouldn’t we do more?” That’s always the answer for an overachiever. Do more, do more, do more. The problem … doing more is […]
Our strengths become our biggest weakness
You’re a hard worker. You’re a high achiever. You’ve been taught, “Good things happen to those who work hard.” When you don’t think you are ENOUGH … you then go into overdrive and OVERACHIEVE. Work longer hours. Do more for others. Sacrifice yourself for the good of others. THE PROBLEM: You’re exhausted. You’ve literally run […]
The power of taking very small steps
I was in constant turmoil. I hated my job. I hated my life. Let’s face it, I hated myself. I had to stop living in the swampland of shame. I had run out of friends who were willing to sit around the campfire while I story fondled all of my woes. Actually, they were tired […]
You’ve been brainwashed (and it’s not your fault)
As a kid growing up in a lot of shame, I did not believe I belonged. As an adult, it’s important for me to create environments of inclusive cultures. The theme song of my life is from the television show Cheers. I have cultivated the AquaMonsters to be a place of belonging. Our team motto […]
LOVE
Movies, songs, tv shows, books, magazines. They’re filled with evidence of the unending quest to find love. The quest for connection. Does your current “state of love” look anything like this artwork by Alexander Milliav? It takes courage to LOVE. It’s so easy to turn our backs on those we love, while at the same […]
Work is taking over your life …
You want to do work you love. You want to enjoy your life outside of work, but your work is taking over your life. Did you know all jobs have delightful attributes as well as obstacles to overcome? Yes, there are obstacles. Yes, your job is to overcome them, not flee from them to another […]
The cost of complaining
There’s an internal rumbling. It’s uncomfortable. It’s painful. All you want to do is get rid of it. You do that by complaining. You find short-term relief by letting it out. By complaining, you’re offloading your pain onto someone else. It feels good … kind of like throwing up after a big ole’ tummy ache. […]
Self-hatred is alive and well
Any of this sound familiar? I’ll never be able to achieve [insert your goal]. What’s wrong with me? I work so hard, yet I’m not as successful as [insert the person you compare yourself with] There must be something wrong with me. I hate myself. I hate my life. Those stories are filled […]
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