So much talk about setting goals. “Set your goals to obtain them.” But there is more to it … Sometimes we forget that setting goals is only one part of the process. There are also obstacles to achieving one’s goals. And one of those obstacles is to answer the question to “who is it you […]
Do new things
Whenever I do something completely new (something I don’t have a lot of confidence in and/or have no control over the outcome) I often notice: The tight shoulders. The pressure. The mental drama in my brain. The procrastination. The busyness that doesn’t accomplish anything. The voice in the back of my head that says you […]
Self-love … Self-hate
My clients are smart, hard working overachievers. They often identify themselves as high achievers. Because they “know” that overachiever is not a “good” title to have. They are soooooooooo hard on themselves. On the outside they are perceived as having it made. They’re “Successful!” They are perceived as being confident. Oh my friend, on the […]
Stop apologizing …
Are you always saying you’re sorry for no REAL reason? If yes, stop that right now! This is part of the cultural programming that has taught women it’s their fault. First, is there anything you need to be apologizing for? Second, dig deep here … do you really mean it or are those words just […]
Your worthiness doesn’t come from your achievements
It’s all around you. The messages that have told you time and time again. Your worthiness comes from your achievements. My friend it’s time to STOP this harmful cultural programming. We’ve been lied to. And these lies are what’s getting in the way of you obtaining your goals. I see this so often. Here are […]
Stop hiding + become who you’re meant to be
One of my clients, Rob, recently earned a promotion at work. I realize you’re thinking “fantastic.” Celebration. 🥂 Oh no!!! This is when the drama begins. This new promotion has awakened the beast in the back of his head: You’re really not good enough for this job. Your colleagues don’t really like you, they don’t […]
The perfectionism gap
I help my clients stop pursuing living a perfect life and instead live the life they want on their terms. Here’s the problem… perfection is the birthplace of shame. You know that awful feeling inside that tells you: You are bad! You are not enough! There’s something wrong with you! You don’t belong here! […]
Hillary Clinton + Michelle Obama
Two types of leadership. Growing up…there weren’t many female leaders I knew about. On TV the leaders were men. While I had female leaders in the classroom and a powerful force of a mother, until college all of my swimming coaches had been male. I was culturally programmed to not value my mother and the […]
It’s your job to believe in YOU
I get it…you aren’t sure. ….What if you’re wrong? …What if you’re mistaken? ….Maybe someone else knows better? My friend, while it can seem lovely for others to believe in you…it’s just not sustainable. It’s less vulnerable to have others believe in you, than for you to believe in you…and quite possibly be wrong. Here’s […]
How to show up in life when you feel like a fraud
You think you’re a fraud. You don’t know how to show up in your life because of this story. So you hide away. You don’t show up. You don’t speak out. You don’t create what you want in your life. Let’s take a look at the definition of fraud: “A person or thing intended to […]
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