Have you noticed the voices in your heads often ask you crappy questions like: What’s wrong with me? Why is this happening to me? Why is my life so hard? When you ask those questions it does not take you out of shame but helps you further dive into this feeling you want nothing to […]
You don’t have to be perfect to be amazing
Perfectionism: The golden handcuffs of life. You believe that once you finally look perfect, act perfect, and always do perfect that you’ll get the results you want. STOP! This lie of perfectionism only creates more shame … more of those little voices in the back of your head that tell you… “See, you’re really not […]
A Demand Dressed Up as a Question
A true question is one where the other person can say YES or NO. Will you do me a favor? Can you close the windows? Will you stop at the store on the way home? Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? We believe we are asking a question because we put a question mark at the end […]
Are you living in the Swampland of Shame?
This is how I used to do it: When I was in pain, I would pitch a tent, build a campfire and invite people (actually anyone willing to hear all the gory details at length) to sit with me. I was a great story fondler, going over + over the details of how I was […]
You are just where you are supposed to be
Shit storms is one of my favorite phrases. I live an amazing life. Truly I do. But I also acknowledge there are many shit storms throughout my day/week. By acknowledging these shit storms, I am able to own my story and have less pain from my reality. If I believed these situations should not be […]
Does that belief belong to you?
I feel guilty. Why? Because I am a bad daughter. Why? Because I don’t play by my dad’s rules for our relationship. Is that your belief? That you must play by your dad’s rules to be a good daughter? It’s what I learned from my dad. Now that you are an adult woman, do you […]
Invitation Not an Obligation
As a child, I was a shy, quiet girl. I never wanted to demand or impose. I was afraid of rejection so I wouldn’t initiate sleepovers or invite new friends over. I neglected my own inner voice. I taught myself I didn’t matter. In college, I got brave. I started asking people to do things. […]
Where will you be in six months?
Years ago, I interviewed Peter Walsh and he told me the key to his success: Commit 100%, totally commit. Be absolutely all-in. Wow. 100% commitment means no room for wobble or self-doubt. Peter then shared his second key to success: Re-evaluate in 6 months. This isn’t for the rest of your life. The 6 months […]
Honor Commitments to Yourself
The idea of honoring commitments to yourself probably sounds brilliant, or completely ridiculous. Brilliant because when you honor commitments to yourself, you are taking care of yourself. You are getting stuff done. You are proud of yourself. Ridiculous because if you suck at honoring commitments to yourself you have a long list of reasons how […]
Trying vs. Doing
This is what TRY looks like: I’m trying to figure out the foods that fuel my body I’m trying to lose weight I’m trying to date I’m trying to be compassionate with myself I’m trying to lead my team at work. These are some of the things I hear from my clients. I ask, why […]
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