One of my strengths is my ability to be courageous. I work on being courageous in my life, by writing you these emails, by owning my voice, by sharing what I believe with you, my friends and my family. Often times my own family can be the hardest place to show up and own my […]
A challenge for you
What if you committed to one personal development book for a year? This means you, read the entire book, re-read it again and used it as a resource. You would have to actually apply the information you read and USE the nuggets of wisdom. Where would you be in 12 months? What I know for […]
The best thing that ever happened for me …
In my twenties I was hired as a head coach and college teacher. This is the kind of “ultimate” job for so many people I know. It was a safe job because tenure was involved. And it came with some of the freedom that comes with academia – “no 9-5.” On the outside this job […]
WHERE ARE YOU ROOTED?
Think of yourself as a tree. Stay with me now. You are a tree. Solid trunk. Lots of branches and leaves. Now think about your roots. Where are your roots growing? Are they growing in toxic soil? Are they growing in rich + robust soil? Now let’s think about our emotional states as soil. Shame […]
Confidence before achievement
Often my clients struggle with self-confidence in either their professional or personal lives. They find themselves confident in one part of their life but not in others. They believe the solution is to work harder to become more confident in the other parts. They’ve followed the promise of achieving X and the result will be […]
Stop using “busy” to measure happiness
My client used busy as a status symbol for happiness. If she was busy, she thought, she could prove to others she was worthy … and therefore would be happy. Sure, busy fills up that vulnerable white space we covet, but are so afraid of because we are then alone with ourselves. If you don’t […]
How does this serve you?
I’m not appreciated. I often hear this from clients when they are verbal vomiting the painful stories in their head about an area they are struggling with. A magic trick I have to stop the vomit is to ask “how does it serve you to believe you are not appreciated.” The immediate answer, It doesn’t […]
Don’t let other people’s judgements stop you.
People have opinions. In fact, they have lots of opinions. And don’t worry, their opinions include judgements about what you should and shouldn’t do. Don’t let their judgements stop you. Instead you must listen to the inside of you. Give your opinion more weight than you do other people’s judgement. Last fall, I was helping […]
Stop saying THIS sentence
There’s one thing that’s getting in the way of your confidence. You believe it’s either: Your lack of achieving your goals + desires. All the demands placed on your life + schedule. Your lot in life. Actually it’s not any of those life circumstances. It’s what you believe. It’s your thought. It’s a sentence in […]
How to act with confidence when you hate yourself
You can’t act with confidence when you hate yourself. That would not be confidence, it would be a lie. Let’s look at the definition of confidence: the state of feeling certain about the truth of something. a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. the feeling or belief that […]
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