Whenever I do something completely new (something I don’t have a lot of confidence in and/or have no control over the outcome) I often notice:
- The tight shoulders.
- The pressure.
- The mental drama in my brain.
- The procrastination.
- The busyness that doesn’t accomplish anything.
- The voice in the back of my head that says you don’t know how to do it. It won’t be good enough. So stop now!!!
That list, my friend, is just the price of entry for me. Am I really willing to overcome this new thing, or will I succumb?
And I’d bet you have your own list.
STOP thinking it should be happening any other way. It’s happening exactly the way it’s supposed to. This is merely the price of doing new things.
As Byron Katie says “when you argue with reality, you lose 100% of the time.”
So stop that! Stop putting yourself in losing situations and creating more mental drama.
Instead, remind yourself “of course I have tight shoulders + feel pressure. This is part of my process of doing new things. With more practice, this will no longer be a new thing”
Regarding the mental drama in my brain, well it’s completely unnecessary and a way to indulge so I don’t have to overcome and be vulnerable.
Which then leads to the procrastination and not getting anything done. Along with the complete insane busyness that only amounts to fluttering around and then exhaustion.
See how that progression occurs, how I created it out of thin air?
Instead, know that doing new things is a challenging and uncomfortable undertaking. But this discomfort is part of the process and your willingness to be vulnerable (uncertain, emotional exposure + risk) is the pathway to creating what your heart desires.
Go. Do new things. It will be okay. In fact, in the end, it will be fantastic. Trust me.