This isn’t a proud moment right now. But it’s my turn to own my story and love myself in this moment as I share it with you. The objections in my head say Don’t do it! Stop! You know better than to do this now so don’t bother sharing your wrong ways. No one will […]
Culturally, we’ve been programmed that in order to be worthy you must be: Perfect. Beautiful. Smart. Successful. Kind to others before you are kind to yourself. This does not leave any space to make mistakes, to fall down, and to have bad hair days. We’ve been set up to forever be hustling for our worthiness. […]
What is confidence? The belief in yourself + your ability to succeed/accomplish something. Now, what gets in your way and stops you from having confidence in yourself? The standard answer that my clients give me is they don’t have the evidence to be able to believe in themselves. Or they have plenty of evidence of […]
You made a decision. In fact you may not even be aware of this decision. But you’ve been living with it for years!!! You’ve lived with the rule that you can only believe in yourself once others believe in you. Until others believe in you … believing in yourself – is not allowed. You must […]
You live by rules. You’ve accepted these rules as LAW. You let these rules govern you without questioning. You haven’t even considered these rules may not be TRUE. These rules create pressure inside of you. What rules am I talking about? Be a good girl and you will be enough. Be successful and you will […]
One of my strengths is my ability to be courageous. I work on being courageous in my life, by writing you these emails, by owning my voice, by sharing what I believe with you, my friends and my family. Often times my own family can be the hardest place to show up and own my […]
Often my clients struggle with self-confidence in either their professional or personal lives. They find themselves confident in one part of their life but not in others. They believe the solution is to work harder to become more confident in the other parts. They’ve followed the promise of achieving X and the result will be […]
My client used busy as a status symbol for happiness. If she was busy, she thought, she could prove to others she was worthy … and therefore would be happy. Sure, busy fills up that vulnerable white space we covet, but are so afraid of because we are then alone with ourselves. If you don’t […]
People have opinions. In fact, they have lots of opinions. And don’t worry, their opinions include judgements about what you should and shouldn’t do. Don’t let their judgements stop you. Instead you must listen to the inside of you. Give your opinion more weight than you do other people’s judgement. Last fall, I was helping […]
There’s one thing that’s getting in the way of your confidence. You believe it’s either: Your lack of achieving your goals + desires. All the demands placed on your life + schedule. Your lot in life. Actually it’s not any of those life circumstances. It’s what you believe. It’s your thought. It’s a sentence in […]