I want someone to feel sorry for me. So someone will rescue me. I want the white knight to come and fix my problem. So I don’t have to be vulnerable (uncertainty, emotional exposure + risk). I want the imaginary white knight because then I can bet on “him” instead of me. So I don’t […]
I feel guilty. Why? Because I am a bad daughter. Why? Because I don’t play by my dad’s rules for our relationship. Is that your belief? That you must play by your dad’s rules to be a good daughter? It’s what I learned from my dad. Now that you are an adult woman, do you […]
The idea of honoring commitments to yourself probably sounds brilliant, or completely ridiculous. Brilliant because when you honor commitments to yourself, you are taking care of yourself. You are getting stuff done. You are proud of yourself. Ridiculous because if you suck at honoring commitments to yourself you have a long list of reasons how […]
Many of my clients only want to go up to bat in their life if they are guaranteed a home run. Sound familiar? Instead of thinking you should hit a home run every time you step up to bat in your life. Remind yourself that a great baseball player hits 30% of the time. Of […]
One thing about being an approval whore … you are seeking out someone else to do your job. You want others to believe in you. Because you believe … if they approve of you … they can see how capable you are and then believe in you. Then you don’t have to believe in you. […]
You set a goal. You’re excited, at least for a few minutes. Then you get scared out of your mind … What if it doesn’t happen? What if you aren’t good enough to achieve it? Besides, you aren’t someone who ever really gets what she wants. And that’s why you don’t believe you can achieve […]
Remember Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz? She was in search of the Wizard to solve her problems. Much like my inner child wants the “white knight to rescue me.” Dorothy had so many obstacles to overcome on her path down that yellow brick road. She also had others join her on her journey and […]
A friend of mine was so excited. She had a big dream to travel. This was one of those bucket list trips. One that a few years ago was not something she even believed was possible for her. This trip was far from her reality. Until now. She was sitting in this breathtaking place and […]
I have a long held belief … there has got to be a better way. I hated the movie As Good as it Gets with Jack Nicholson and Helen Hunt. I believe in being a deliberate creator in our life. I believe in possibilities for all of us. Not just those who have had great […]
Believing in YOU is vulnerable. There’s a ton of risk …. what will others think??? We’ve been programmed to not be “too much.” My friend … believing in yourself is not being too much. Think about all those little toddlers who believe in themselves. We adore them. They believe in their ability to crawl, to […]