Many of my clients only want to go up to bat in their life if they are guaranteed a home run. Sound familiar? Instead of thinking you should hit a home run every time you step up to bat in your life. Remind yourself that a great baseball player hits 30% of the time. Of […]
One thing about being an approval whore … you are seeking out someone else to do your job. You want others to believe in you. Because you believe … if they approve of you … they can see how capable you are and then believe in you. Then you don’t have to believe in you. […]
You set a goal. You’re excited, at least for a few minutes. Then you get scared out of your mind … What if it doesn’t happen? What if you aren’t good enough to achieve it? Besides, you aren’t someone who ever really gets what she wants. And that’s why you don’t believe you can achieve […]
Remember Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz? She was in search of the Wizard to solve her problems. Much like my inner child wants the “white knight to rescue me.” Dorothy had so many obstacles to overcome on her path down that yellow brick road. She also had others join her on her journey and […]
A friend of mine was so excited. She had a big dream to travel. This was one of those bucket list trips. One that a few years ago was not something she even believed was possible for her. This trip was far from her reality. Until now. She was sitting in this breathtaking place and […]
I have a long held belief … there has got to be a better way. I hated the movie As Good as it Gets with Jack Nicholson and Helen Hunt. I believe in being a deliberate creator in our life. I believe in possibilities for all of us. Not just those who have had great […]
Believing in YOU is vulnerable. There’s a ton of risk …. what will others think??? We’ve been programmed to not be “too much.” My friend … believing in yourself is not being too much. Think about all those little toddlers who believe in themselves. We adore them. They believe in their ability to crawl, to […]
We are always a work in progress. One of the big lies we’ve been told is “one day – out there – we will arrive.” Then, when that someday arrives, we will finally be good enough and can rest. HA! You must practice becoming the next version of yourself and also rest. Hence, why you […]
I grew up poor. I thought having “the things I was supposed to have” would allow me to finally be worthy of love + belonging. This was unfortunately my thinking at the ripe old age of 10 years old. Wow! Back in the 1980s, Minnetonka Moccasin shoes were a must have item for girls. I […]
Intellectually, you understand it’s important for you to take care of yourself … but you still find yourself prioritizing pleasing other people over your own needs (I call this “approval whoring”). You want to be your own best friend … but you spend a lot of time criticizing and hating yourself. You want to be […]