I had it all wrong. I thought I had to be better than I could possibly be. I thought I had to achieve great success. I thought I had to be perfect. Then, if I could achieve all of these things, I’d be loved. I would finally be worthy of love + belonging. The thing […]
I seem to talk about this over + over + over again. While we have been culturally programmed to believe it’s nice to people please (AKA – approval whore) it is NOT. When you edit your thoughts, feelings + values to please someone else, you are not letting others get to know the real you. […]
How often are you seeking the wisdom of others? Of course I would be hypocritical if I told you … you’re not supposed to seek out others wisdom. As the host of the How She Really Does It podcast since 2006, I’ve done several hundred interviews with other people … seeking out their wisdom. […]
Recently, I was hiking along the beautiful Amalfi Coast. Actually, I was hiking alongside a cliff. There were lots of rocks and rubble. The interesting thing was that the paths most walked were well-worn and also the most slippery + dangerous. This is a great metaphor for life. How often are the paths most walked […]
When you lead you want to be confident. For example, when you are leading a meeting … do it with confidence. Be confident: In yourself. In what you are going to deliver. In your ability to run the meeting. Then the meeting will be effective! But … you ask … how do you know the […]
We are story making creatures. Our brain is neuro-biologically wired for stories. In the white space of not knowing … our brain creates a story. Usually the stories we tell ourselves create prison walls + keep us away from the possibilities for our lives. My client Natalie had one of those stories. She works in […]
You make a phone call. The other person answers (your friend, sister, mother, brother …). And … you dive right into all your problems and frustrations. You start verbally vomiting. It’s immediate. It follows when they say “hello.” You start talking right away. Without cultivating a connection with “how are you? I’m going through a […]
People often think life is an either/or. Either you sacrifice yourself at work to create the career you want … and your personal life struggles. Or you give up your career to have the family you want. While those are indeed two options, they aren’t the only options. Doing good work does NOT mean you […]
ALERT: You are an adult. You no longer need someone else’s permission. You can give yourself permission. Stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to DO, to BE, to HAVE what you want. As an adult you get to do that. Give yourself permission to: Ask for what you want. Make a mistake. […]
I can’t cook. I can’t get organized. I can’t write. Remind you of how you’ve been talking to yourself? Do you focus on what you can’t do instead of what you CAN do? How’s that working for you Are you stuck? Do you beat yourself up because you story fondle all the things you can’t […]