The greatest thing you can do is believe in yourself. Think about it for a moment. If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? Often, my clients are upset. They believe it’s because of other people’s judgement of them, but it’s really that they have an unconscious rule they live by. This rule is “their […]
There’s a voice inside you that you disregard. Instead of listening to your own voice, you listen to the voices of others … people you may not even know. Then you tell yourself — because your voice is different than the others — “you’re doing it wrong.” STOP DOING THAT (I say this with lots […]
My client was in tears. I asked her, “Do you want to fit in … or belong.” Her response surprised me. “I want to fit in.” Fitting in is an attempt at making yourself who you think others want you to be. Belonging is showing up fully as your complete messy + lovable self. She […]
When I ask people what they believe about themselves, they say things like this … I am hard working. I care deeply. I must work really hard. I never get it all done. I am not lovable. I can’t have what I really want. I will never be enough. What do you believe about […]
You need to stop believing that making mistakes makes you a failure. I realize we have been taught that mistakes equal an “F” in school … however, my friend, this is life, not the rules of school. Mistakes are lessons learned … and we all go through them (and even need them). Yes, all of […]
We know we’re supposed be practicing gratitude, yet we still don’t do it. Instead of wasting precious hours of your life trying to analyze why (or feeling guilt about it), how about getting right down to a few simple ways of actually doing it? Here are 10 ways you can practice your gratitude … Allow […]
Do you overindulge in the drama of your life? When a friend calls, do you start the conversation with what’s not going well? Most people live in the swampland of shame, because they don’t know any better. Instead of focusing on where they want to go, they talk about how horrible it is to live […]
One of my clients had a belief … that her partner must be 100% honest (100% of the time) to be in a loving + connected relationship. As you can imagine, this belief led to difficult and short relationships … until she realized that she herself couldn’t live up to her own demands. Another client […]
Shame is what threatens your place of love + belonging. When you struggle with shame — and we all do — you can: Try to outrun it. However, it is always there. Wherever you are, there it is, inside of you. Sell yourself out in order to please others in your life. While we think […]
When you’re learning how to drive a car, you’re not also learning how to cook at the same time. In that moment, you’re focused on the driving (or, you should be!). In your life, how often do you focus on one thing or try to do multiple things at the same time? Commit to one […]