When you’re learning how to drive a car, you’re not also learning how to cook at the same time. In that moment, you’re focused on the driving (or, you should be!). In your life, how often do you focus on one thing or try to do multiple things at the same time? Commit to one […]
Isn’t it fascinating how we give so much power to certain numbers in our life? The number on the scale The number in your bank account The number on your tax return Those numbers have power because you’ve bought into a cultural belief that those numbers validate your worth. Big fat lie!!! The number on […]
“Who hates Koren?” Those three words used to cause me so much pain and suffering. When I was in fifth grade, I received a note after library class with those three words listed at the top of the paper, along with signatures of my classmates. CRUSHING to anyone, especially this shy, insecure 10 year […]
You’re not sure. Whether to stay in your marriage, to stay in your job, rebuild that connection in your family, or to finally lose weight after so many failed attempts. Sure, you can quit. That would be fine. Get a divorce. Find a new job. Put up walls with your family and call them all […]
When I was a junior in college, I secretly pursued a HUGE GOAL for myself. I wanted to be a National Champion in the 200 yard butterfly at the Division II NCAA’s. I told no one. Because I could not risk failure and losing “face” if it did not come true. But that’s another discussion. […]
I bet you could write a long list of all the reasons you’re not worthy. Don’t do it. That list will only create SHAME. Shame WILL NOT lead to you feeling better about yourself, only worse. Your truth is this: you are worthy right here, right now. “Worthy” does not mean you’re without flaws. Instead, […]
Sometimes my clients release a lot of verbal vomit, especially when things are not going the way they want them to go. They usually end their verbal vomit sessions with a TOXIC BELIEF: I want to be normal. This is their way of saying, the situation they’re going through is different and shouldn’t be happening. […]
A couple of years ago I found myself in a group email thread where a male swim coach was trying to stop me from using my voice. He did not like that I was asking hard questions, that I was willing to use my voice to speak to our governing body. Have you ever found […]
I have a lot of clients who are looking for a second chapter in their love lives. They were once married and raised kids. Now they find themselves single. While I don’t think of myself (nor do I advertise myself) as a relationship coach, I do coach a lot of people through these “next chapter” […]
The one thing I know for sure is that we all want (and need) a place to belong. One of the things I work hard to create in every environment I’m a part of is a space where people can be exactly who they are. A space to belong. No fitting in to what others […]