Does the judgement of other people stop you in your tracks? Are you afraid of being judged, and “stay small” in your life? Here’s the thing … no matter what, people will judge you. In fact, it’s not really other people’s judgement we are afraid of. It’s that their judgement could be true. Instead […]
Parenting is one of the bravest things we do. It’s hard. We are vulnerable and no matter how hard we try to protect ourselves, we are guaranteed to face uncertainty, emotional exposure and risk. While I was “sure” at 20 that I would never expose myself to the vulnerability of raising kids, life had other […]
Let’s say you have a friend who’s fierce. She is strong and capable. Do you ever reach out to her to see how she’s really doing? Might be a tough thing to do. Since she’s strong and capable, she may not be used to letting you in. But here’s the thing, we all need to […]
My clients often put up a lot of resistance to committing to their best case scenario. They tend to throw a lot of “but …” sentences out there, reasons why they can’t possibly commit. To help them overcome this resistance, I share ideas about committing to the best case scenario, while also managing risk. During […]
A couple of obstacles parents have told me about recently … “My daughter didn’t want to put on her new suit for swim practice.” “My teen wasn’t happy about getting out of bed for the swim meet.” What causes people pain is the belief that obstacles shouldn’t be happening. While the parent of a teen […]
Being a more badass version of yourself isn’t about being cocky or arrogant. It’s about you being YOU. It’s about you returning to yourself. It’s taking off all the damn armour you’ve accumulated over the years. You know … Perfectionism Judgement Hiding Self-sabotage Being afraid to fully embrace joy in your life Sarcasm Approval whoring, […]
In my swimming world, I am faced with a lot of obstacles surrounding “the story of swim meets.” Years ago, Dan Pink and I had a discussion about swim meets. He did not like them, “you spent all day and if you weren’t paying attention, could miss your child’s 14 second race.” Unfortunately, while Dan […]
It’s a lie to believe you can somehow set up a life free of shit storms. The storm is coming … are you prepared? Shit storms are where growth occurs and transformation can happen. Your brain tells you to play it safe … “No shit storms allowed.” However, without them you’d stagnate, and you don’t […]
The greatest thing you can do is believe in yourself. Think about it for a moment. If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? Often, my clients are upset. They believe it’s because of other people’s judgement of them, but it’s really that they have an unconscious rule they live by. This rule is “their […]
There’s a voice inside you that you disregard. Instead of listening to your own voice, you listen to the voices of others … people you may not even know. Then you tell yourself — because your voice is different than the others — “you’re doing it wrong.” STOP DOING THAT (I say this with lots […]