The quality of the questions you ask affects the quality of your life. Your question is a window to the answer you seek. Your question helps your brain focus on where to look for an answer. I often get asked: “Am I normal?” “Is this normal?” When either of these questions are asked … the […]
I didn’t want to waste the time.. Because I had a belief I needed to get home. But, did I really not have some time??? I wanted to go and explore. I didn’t have to be home. I had the freedom. I had the time. I had the white space. I gave myself permission to […]
You don’t want to be selfish. You’ve been taught — or rather, culturally programmed — in order to be a good enough wife and mother you must put everyone else ahead of YOU. In fact, your teens are more than happy to ensure this message on a daily basis. At work, your supposed to be […]
So much talk about setting goals. “Set your goals to obtain them.” But there is more to it … Sometimes we forget that setting goals is only one part of the process. There are also obstacles to achieving one’s goals. And one of those obstacles is to answer the question to “who is it you […]
Whenever I do something completely new (something I don’t have a lot of confidence in and/or have no control over the outcome) I often notice: The tight shoulders. The pressure. The mental drama in my brain. The procrastination. The busyness that doesn’t accomplish anything. The voice in the back of my head that says you […]
My clients are smart, hard working overachievers. They often identify themselves as high achievers. Because they “know” that overachiever is not a “good” title to have. They are soooooooooo hard on themselves. On the outside they are perceived as having it made. They’re “Successful!” They are perceived as being confident. Oh my friend, on the […]
Are you always saying you’re sorry for no REAL reason? If yes, stop that right now! This is part of the cultural programming that has taught women it’s their fault. First, is there anything you need to be apologizing for? Second, dig deep here … do you really mean it or are those words just […]
It’s all around you. The messages that have told you time and time again. Your worthiness comes from your achievements. My friend it’s time to STOP this harmful cultural programming. We’ve been lied to. And these lies are what’s getting in the way of you obtaining your goals. I see this so often. Here are […]
One of my clients, Rob, recently earned a promotion at work. I realize you’re thinking “fantastic.” Celebration. 🥂 Oh no!!! This is when the drama begins. This new promotion has awakened the beast in the back of his head: You’re really not good enough for this job. Your colleagues don’t really like you, they don’t […]
I help my clients stop pursuing living a perfect life and instead live the life they want on their terms. Here’s the problem… perfection is the birthplace of shame. You know that awful feeling inside that tells you: You are bad! You are not enough! There’s something wrong with you! You don’t belong here! […]