It’s all around you. The messages that have told you time and time again. Your worthiness comes from your achievements. My friend it’s time to STOP this harmful cultural programming. We’ve been lied to. And these lies are what’s getting in the way of you obtaining your goals. I see this so often. Here are […]
One of my clients, Rob, recently earned a promotion at work. I realize you’re thinking “fantastic.” Celebration. 🥂 Oh no!!! This is when the drama begins. This new promotion has awakened the beast in the back of his head: You’re really not good enough for this job. Your colleagues don’t really like you, they don’t […]
I help my clients stop pursuing living a perfect life and instead live the life they want on their terms. Here’s the problem… perfection is the birthplace of shame. You know that awful feeling inside that tells you: You are bad! You are not enough! There’s something wrong with you! You don’t belong here! […]
Two types of leadership. Growing up…there weren’t many female leaders I knew about. On TV the leaders were men. While I had female leaders in the classroom and a powerful force of a mother, until college all of my swimming coaches had been male. I was culturally programmed to not value my mother and the […]
I get it…you aren’t sure. ….What if you’re wrong? …What if you’re mistaken? ….Maybe someone else knows better? My friend, while it can seem lovely for others to believe in you…it’s just not sustainable. It’s less vulnerable to have others believe in you, than for you to believe in you…and quite possibly be wrong. Here’s […]
You think you’re a fraud. You don’t know how to show up in your life because of this story. So you hide away. You don’t show up. You don’t speak out. You don’t create what you want in your life. Let’s take a look at the definition of fraud: “A person or thing intended to […]
Recently while talking to someone … they asked me about the connection between being ENOUGH and being a BADASS version of YOU … He believed “being ENOUGH was settling. Instead of settling shouldn’t we do more?” That’s always the answer for an overachiever. Do more, do more, do more. The problem … doing more is […]
You’re a hard worker. You’re a high achiever. You’ve been taught, “Good things happen to those who work hard.” When you don’t think you are ENOUGH … you then go into overdrive and OVERACHIEVE. Work longer hours. Do more for others. Sacrifice yourself for the good of others. THE PROBLEM: You’re exhausted. You’ve literally run […]
I was in constant turmoil. I hated my job. I hated my life. Let’s face it, I hated myself. I had to stop living in the swampland of shame. I had run out of friends who were willing to sit around the campfire while I story fondled all of my woes. Actually, they were tired […]
As a kid growing up in a lot of shame, I did not believe I belonged. As an adult, it’s important for me to create environments of inclusive cultures. The theme song of my life is from the television show Cheers. I have cultivated the AquaMonsters to be a place of belonging. Our team motto […]