I know … you were taught differently about LOVE. To be worthy of love you were taught to: Have high standards for yourself. Excel. Achieve and finally be worthy of love. You also learned to beat yourself up when you didn’t achieve, to drive yourself to finally achieving. You believed that if you are critical […]
I am direct. I’ve learned to be clear. I ask for what I want. Last year I was at a swim meet (this is a frequent event in my life). A parent mentioned to me that her husband offered his office for the swimmers to use as a hang out during the break between trials […]
I am a runner. Not the kind that puts on running shoes and goes outside for a run. I am a runner in life. My go to when I am in pain is to run. Run away. Run and hide. Run … run … run. This was my solution to any problem. In my younger […]
You want to: Live a better life. Enjoy this one precious life of yours. Finally like yourself. Be your authentic self. It’s totally possible for YOU! You can: Realize you are ENOUGH. Live your life with confidence in who you are + what you have to offer. Be worthy with all of your strengths + […]
On the outside you look like you are confident, enjoy your life + are happy. On the inside there is a mighty war going on that only you know about. This war is ravaging you internally. The war is about not being: successful enough smart enough good enough pretty enough Inside you beat yourself down […]
MYTH: You can love others more than you love yourself. FACT: Your ability to love others is correlated to your ability to love yourself. Almost a decade ago I read this mind shattering fact in Brené Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection as I was preparing for my first interview with her. Her research in […]
You know that moment when you feel defeat as you compare yourself to others and come to the conclusion you don’t measure up. SCENARIO #1 You are upset with yourself because you aren’t successful enough. This is the start of your downward spiral. You start to tell yourself, “there’s something wrong with me.” You look […]
Why do we care about other people’s judgement? Because it threatens our belonging … or so we believe. We are hardwired for connection. We want a place to belong. Judgement does NOT feel safe. Judgement is rooted in SHAME…you know that damn voice of “not enough.” Here’s the thing, other people’s judgement has nothing to […]
You think it’s your life situations that create your worthiness. The truth is your lack of worthiness doesn’t come from: Your job. Your horrible boss. Your marital status. How much money you don’t make. The number on the scale. Ready to know what creates your worthiness? The thoughts you believe over and over about yourself […]
10 years ago I came up with a concept for my clients and myself. Verbal Vomit. This was great for those who didn’t use their voice. The old me went years keeping my thoughts inside of me. In fact, I buried them so far down, I didn’t know what I thought. I didn’t know my […]