If I say no, people will think I am mean. Only mean people say no. If you believe no = meanness, then you will have a hard time saying no. Your guilt will override your logic and your desires. In order to be able to say no to things you don’t want to do and […]
This is what TRY looks like: I’m trying to figure out the foods that fuel my body I’m trying to lose weight I’m trying to date I’m trying to be compassionate with myself I’m trying to lead my team at work. These are some of the things I hear from my clients. I ask, why […]
You don’t like mess. You don’t like things to be messy. I am not talking about your physical space. I am talking about your relationships, communication, your work, families and friendships. Maybe you’re afraid to have a difficult conversation with your friend because you’re worried it will end the friendship. Maybe your marriage doesn’t look […]
The idea of honoring commitments to yourself probably sounds brilliant, or completely ridiculous. Brilliant because when you honor commitments to yourself, you are taking care of yourself. You are getting stuff done. You are proud of yourself. Ridiculous because if you suck at honoring commitments to yourself you have a long list of reasons how […]
You want to do work you love. You want to enjoy your life outside of work, but your work is taking over your life. Did you know all jobs have delightful attributes as well as obstacles to overcome? Yes, there are obstacles. Yes, your job is to overcome them, not flee from them to another […]
Last week I ran a training session for one of my private clients. We did the Dare to Lead™ training workshop based on the work of Brené Brown. My client owns her business with 3 other partners. She often explains to me that she is not the leader, they are all equal partners. But what […]
What is success? What do you know for sure? What are your values? What are your priorities? My friend … it’s your job to answer these questions. I realize this may be news to you. You’ve let others define it for you. Your parents. Your friends. Your mentors. Your school. No one gets to write […]
I was in the middle of a text conversation with someone I care about. There was some vulnerable sharing that was occuring in the texts. The problem I have with texting … I don’t have to be fully committed to the “conversation.” I can get distracted + stop texting. Thereby, ghosting the other person. This […]
I didn’t swim to get inducted to the Hall of Fame I didn’t swim to swim in college. I didn’t swim for awards. I swam because I loved being in the pool. I swam because it was fun. I swam because it felt so good. I continued to swim, because I had a place to […]
Growing up…I believed there was something wrong with me. I was different. I was tall….ALWAYS, even in Kindergarten. I was biracial. My mom is Korean but I don’t look Asian. I was poor. Well not me … but my family didn’t have much financially. Most of my life I felt like the black sheep. I […]