I’m an idiot. I’m dumb. I’m such a loser. I’m sure you can add to the list of critical thoughts you tell yourself over and over and over again, every hour of every day. What’s your intention with these mean things you’re saying to yourself? A better YOU? We’ve been culturally programmed to believe criticism […]
One night I was staring up at the ceiling while lying in bed. I was scared out of my mind. I was unsure that life could be better. I wanted certainty. I wanted security. I wanted to have enough money and then I would be safe. I was 11 years old and heard my parents […]
You want the guaranteed outcome. We all do. Then you can eliminate risk. You will be productive + efficient. You will know you made the right choice. You won’t lose face and have to deal with that awful feeling of SHAME. Sounds lovely. My friend, it’s a big fat lie. There is NO guaranteed outcome. […]
When someone asks you how you’re doing? Do you tell them all the shitty things that are going on? Do you tell them all the amazing things in your life? As you go through your day, do you: Focus on what’s not working? Focus on what is working in your life, job, family? When you […]
No people pleasers here. My preferred term is approval whore. You know, someone who says or does what they think others want instead of what they want. However, you may not recognize yourself as an approval whore. So, I’ll rephrase my term to people pleasers While you’ve been taught that it’s “nice” to people please, […]
I understand. You get busy … You didn’t realize … That your relationships with your girlfriends are created by the little things. But, you’ve discounted the little things. Instead you listen to the voice in the back of your head: “It doesn’t matter.” “No one will notice.” “She won’t care.” “It’s really not that big […]
A friend of mine was so excited. She had a big dream to travel. This was one of those bucket list trips. One that a few years ago was not something she even believed was possible for her. This trip was far from her reality. Until now. She was sitting in this breathtaking place and […]
Stop being confused. This is a distraction. Confusion gives you permission to not do anything. You get to remain exactly where you are. It seems innocent … yet it’s toxic. Toxic…because you: Don’t make any forward movement. Are still in the same place. Make this lack of progress about you not being good enough. Don’t […]
My clients are high achievers. They are smart, intelligent, hard workers. Here’s the thing … many wouldn’t even use those words to identify themselves. They usually come to me and say they aren’t disciplined. They may want to be perceived as smart, but they aren’t confident that that’s really the case because they are so […]
You believe you must do better. You believe you must be better. STOP right now. Did you know we are hardwired to grow? Let’s look at babies. They live the life of luxury. 👶 A baby cries and gets fed. 👶 A baby pees/poops and gets changed. 👶 A baby gets carried and swaddled. 👶 […]