Culturally, we’ve been programmed that in order to be worthy you must be: Perfect. Beautiful. Smart. Successful. Kind to others before you are kind to yourself. This does not leave any space to make mistakes, to fall down, and to have bad hair days. We’ve been set up to forever be hustling for our worthiness. […]
Did you ever stop to think “does my self-hatred help me get to self-love?” My friend, it doesn’t. Culturally, it’s acceptable to be self-critical … and even self-deprecating. But to be proud of oneself? Never. Not allowed. Self-hatred starts in small, seemingly benign steps … self- criticism self-deprecation Those two small steps lead to self-hatred, […]
Often my clients struggle with self-confidence in either their professional or personal lives. They find themselves confident in one part of their life but not in others. They believe the solution is to work harder to become more confident in the other parts. They’ve followed the promise of achieving X and the result will be […]
There’s one thing that’s getting in the way of your confidence. You believe it’s either: Your lack of achieving your goals + desires. All the demands placed on your life + schedule. Your lot in life. Actually it’s not any of those life circumstances. It’s what you believe. It’s your thought. It’s a sentence in […]
You can’t act with confidence when you hate yourself. That would not be confidence, it would be a lie. Let’s look at the definition of confidence: the state of feeling certain about the truth of something. a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. the feeling or belief that […]
Start with LOVE. Love leads to more LOVE. It’s not selfish or being self absorbed to love yourself. Loving yourself is to your ability to love others. Love yourself first and then you have the ability to extend that love to others in every encounter. When you love yourself, you are filled with LOVE. When […]
I know … you were taught differently about LOVE. To be worthy of love you were taught to: Have high standards for yourself. Excel. Achieve and finally be worthy of love. You also learned to beat yourself up when you didn’t achieve, to drive yourself to finally achieving. You believed that if you are critical […]
On the outside you look like you are confident, enjoy your life + are happy. On the inside there is a mighty war going on that only you know about. This war is ravaging you internally. The war is about not being: successful enough smart enough good enough pretty enough Inside you beat yourself down […]
MYTH: You can love others more than you love yourself. FACT: Your ability to love others is correlated to your ability to love yourself. Almost a decade ago I read this mind shattering fact in Brené Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection as I was preparing for my first interview with her. Her research in […]
You’re in constant turmoil over what other people think about you, your choices + actions. You try to hide away so you aren’t seen + criticized. You don’t own your voice and speak your truth. You act the way you are supposed to act to gain other people’s approval. The problem … by worrying about what other […]