You say “YES” when you really want to say “NO.” You are afraid that if you don’t “people please” people will leave you. Here’s the thing. You’re so busy considering what other people think of you + what they think you should do. That you haven’t given thought or space to what you want to […]
I know … there’s a voice in the back of your head. You worry that it’s true. This voice catches you in those moments of doubt. And it has the perfect story to tell you. “You’re a FRAUD!!!” It’s a lie. It’s a lie to keep you small. It’s a lie to protect you from […]
Have you let other people define you? They tell you who you are and what you are supposed to do. By the time I was in my twenties I had let other people define me for years. I accepted their words as my own truth. Koren is: Confrontational. Difficult. Scary. Not like other women (yes […]
When you are no longer willing to tolerate your unworthiness … You are finally free to become whoever you truly are inside. Let yourself: Shine. Be heard. Be seen. Be liked. Be disliked by others. When you no longer tolerate the stories and internal judgements of not being enough, you can finally be who you […]
“Approval whoring” does not sound nice. Why not use “people pleasing” instead? People pleasing sounds nice. Women have been culturally programmed to be nice. Women have been culturally programmed to put other people’s needs before their own. Women have been culturally programmed that if we are nice and put people’s needs in front of our […]
Culturally, we’ve been programmed that in order to be worthy you must be: Perfect. Beautiful. Smart. Successful. Kind to others before you are kind to yourself. This does not leave any space to make mistakes, to fall down, and to have bad hair days. We’ve been set up to forever be hustling for our worthiness. […]
Did you ever stop to think “does my self-hatred help me get to self-love?” My friend, it doesn’t. Culturally, it’s acceptable to be self-critical … and even self-deprecating. But to be proud of oneself? Never. Not allowed. Self-hatred starts in small, seemingly benign steps … self- criticism self-deprecation Those two small steps lead to self-hatred, […]
Often my clients struggle with self-confidence in either their professional or personal lives. They find themselves confident in one part of their life but not in others. They believe the solution is to work harder to become more confident in the other parts. They’ve followed the promise of achieving X and the result will be […]
There’s one thing that’s getting in the way of your confidence. You believe it’s either: Your lack of achieving your goals + desires. All the demands placed on your life + schedule. Your lot in life. Actually it’s not any of those life circumstances. It’s what you believe. It’s your thought. It’s a sentence in […]
You can’t act with confidence when you hate yourself. That would not be confidence, it would be a lie. Let’s look at the definition of confidence: the state of feeling certain about the truth of something. a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. the feeling or belief that […]