I help my clients stop pursuing living a perfect life and instead live the life they want on their terms.
Here’s the problem… perfection is the birthplace of shame.
You know that awful feeling inside that tells you:
- You are bad!
- You are not enough!
- There’s something wrong with you!
- You don’t belong here!
- This isn’t possible for you!
Yes, that is the voice of shame.
And perfectionism is the cause of this feeling.
It’s the belief that if I do everything perfectly, I’ll be safe and finally belong.
And I can finally live the Cinderella dream of living Happily Ever After …
But that’s not what happens when you do everything perfectly.
Perfectionism is a great way to cultivate personal self-hatred.
A standard where you verbally beat yourself up daily, without anyone ever knowing.
A relationship you eventually grow to hate because it’s so painful you numb yourself with food, alcohol, social media or just plain old busyness.
There’s a gap between what perfection promises and what it actually delivers.
In the end, the quest for living perfectly delivers great pain + suffering.
The personal self-hatred is high.
The need to numb and move away from the pain creates more problems and further disconnection.
Let’s stop trying to be perfect and instead be you.
Be all of you.
Those parts of you that are amazing.
Those parts of you that are irritating.
Those parts of you that have so much love to give to others.
Those parts of you that struggle with doubt + uncertainty.
Be all of you.
Avoid the perfectionism gap and the pain that comes with it.
Being you gives you so much freedom.
You can make mistakes and learn.
Being you requires less energy … because you don’t have to be something else.
You be YOU.
Being you brings you JOY!
You don’t have to be perfect to be amazing.
You already are – the entire YOU!
P.S. It’s time to let go of perfection and be YOU … apply for coaching here.