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LOVE

July 18, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

It takes courage to love

Movies, songs, tv shows, books, magazines. They’re filled with evidence of the unending quest to find love. The quest for connection. Does your current “state of love” look anything like this artwork by Alexander Milliav? It takes courage to LOVE. It’s so easy to turn our backs on those we love, while at the same […]

Filed Under: Relationships

The first step to going gladiator

July 11, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

  Bring it on. If you are going to mess with me, I’ll fuck with you. Sound familiar?  That’s the first step to going gladiator.   Going gladiator is when someone comes at you and you puff up. But really, it’s a way to disconnect from that awful feeling of shame (the voice of you […]

Filed Under: Life

Does “nice” mean cupcakes???

July 4, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

As a young female leader, I made a decision about how I would lead. I could be “nice.” If I did that, I would be walked all over, while also being responsible for bringing cupcakes for my employee’s birthdays. Or, I could be a “bitch.”  Then I would not have to be responsible for bringing […]

Filed Under: Work

What do you want to do with your one precious life?

June 27, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

Stop waiting. This life is not a practice run. This is real. Don’t ask for permission. Instead, give yourself your own permission. Manage risk, then go after what you want. Here’s what this looks like … One of my clients wants a new career path.  She’s a highly skilled and respected executive. She has a […]

Filed Under: Courage

I Love Money

June 20, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

i love money

I used to hate money. I used to be afraid of money. I believed that money did not come to people like me – the loser from loser street. Here’s the thing, money is neutral.  Money doesn’t cause pain or suffering. In fact, money doesn’t cause happiness either. It’s the commonly accepted stories about money […]

Filed Under: Money

You don’t need anyone’s permission to set your own boundaries

June 13, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

A couple of years ago I found myself in a group email thread where a male swim coach was trying to stop me from using my voice. He did not like that I was asking hard questions, that I was willing to use my voice to speak to our governing body. Have you ever found […]

Filed Under: Courage

Making mistakes DOES NOT make you a failure

June 6, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

You need to stop believing that making mistakes makes you a failure. I realize we have been taught that mistakes equal an “F” in school … however, my friend, this is life, not the rules of school. Mistakes are lessons learned … and we all go through them (and even need them). Yes, all of […]

Filed Under: Motivation

Rewriting your story

May 30, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

Rewriting your story - Koren Motekaitis

In my swimming world, I am faced with a lot of obstacles surrounding “the story of swim meets.” Years ago, Dan Pink and I had a discussion about swim meets. He did not like them, “you spent all day and if you weren’t paying attention, could miss your child’s 14 second race.” Unfortunately, while Dan […]

Filed Under: Mindset

The answer you’ve been searching for your entire life

May 23, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

The answer you've been searching for your entire life - Koren Motekaitis

I had it all wrong. I thought I had to be better than I could possibly be. I thought I had to achieve great success. I thought I had to be perfect. Then, if I could achieve all of these things, I’d be loved. I would finally be worthy of love + belonging. The thing […]

Filed Under: Brain, Emotions

How to show up in life when you feel like a fraud

May 16, 2023 by Koren Motekaitis

How to show up when you feel like a fraud

You think you’re a fraud. You don’t know how to show up in your life because of this story. So you hide away.  You don’t show up.  You don’t speak out.  You don’t create what you want in your life. Let’s take a look at the definition of fraud: “A person or thing intended to […]

Filed Under: Mindset

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