I grew up poor. I thought having “the things I was supposed to have” would allow me to finally be worthy of love + belonging. This was unfortunately my thinking at the ripe old age of 10 years old. Wow! Back in the 1980s, Minnetonka Moccasin shoes were a must have item for girls. I […]
You’re worthy right now
Yes, I know you’ve heard it before … you’re worthy as you are, right now, right here. But you don’t believe it. In fact you don’t believe you’re worthy of love + belonging just as you are. You’ve been living by made up rules that promise worthiness: you must be accomplished you must be a […]
The stories we tell ourselves
When my clients first come to me, they think it’s because of their circumstances – the job, the relationship, the money, the weight. But really, it comes down to the stories they tell themselves. My amazing, smart, brilliant, beautiful, strong, and capable clients come to me with the stories of not being enough. You know […]
Confidence is an inside job
Intellectually, you understand it’s important for you to take care of yourself … but you still find yourself prioritizing pleasing other people over your own needs (I call this “approval whoring”). You want to be your own best friend … but you spend a lot of time criticizing and hating yourself. You want to be […]
I am not responsible for how you feel
My clients often get in their own way because they’re worried about how they will make others feel. Here’s the thing: You are not responsible for how others feel, you are only responsible for the energy you bring. Years ago, I was at the Daring Way™ training with some colleagues. One of their partners is […]
Resentment is corrosive
You say “YES” when you really want to say “NO.” You are afraid that if you don’t “people please” people will leave you. Here’s the thing. You’re so busy considering what other people think of you + what they think you should do. That you haven’t given thought or space to what you want to […]
You aren’t responsible for your daughter’s feelings
I just got off the phone with a client. She was in so much pain. Her 18 year old daughter, a senior in high school, had told her, “You make me feel like I’m never enough!!!” This really works for her daughter, because my client then gets small in their relationship. My client doesn’t want […]
My favorite foods
Food. It’s all I thought about. My next meal. Where? When? How? It was seductive. I wanted to eat what I wanted. I didn’t want to follow anyone else’s rules. I tuned out so much in my life, just to think about my next meal. My favorite meal was the “forbidden meal.” It could be […]
30% = Success???
Baseball has great lessons for life, even if you’re like me and not a baseball fan. While I never watch baseball on television, on occasion I’ll go with my lifelong Giants fan husband to a game. Even though I don’t love baseball, I love to read lots of baseball books. There are so many good […]
Appreciate what’s amazing
You have dreams. You have desires about how you live this one precious life. You appreciate the amazing things in your life. But …. not everyone has the capacity to: appreciate what’s amazing. allow what’s amazing into their life. live with the amazing in their life. Why??? Because it’s vulnerable. Amazing is not a 24/7 […]
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