Bring it on. If you are going to mess with me, I’ll fuck with you. Sound familiar? That’s the first step to going gladiator. Going gladiator is when someone comes at you and you puff up. But really, it’s a way to disconnect from that awful feeling of shame (the voice of you […]
Do you remember the 1997 movie As Good as It Gets? Jack Nicholson and Helen Hunt playing people who were settling for a good-enough life. I hated that movie. Because it was my life and I didn’t want to accept it. Even back then, I knew I was climbing the wrong career ladder. I was […]
If I say no, people will think I am mean. Only mean people say no. If you believe no = meanness, then you will have a hard time saying no. Your guilt will override your logic and your desires. In order to be able to say no to things you don’t want to do and […]
This is what TRY looks like: I’m trying to figure out the foods that fuel my body I’m trying to lose weight I’m trying to date I’m trying to be compassionate with myself I’m trying to lead my team at work. These are some of the things I hear from my clients. I ask, why […]
You don’t like mess. You don’t like things to be messy. I am not talking about your physical space. I am talking about your relationships, communication, your work, families and friendships. Maybe you’re afraid to have a difficult conversation with your friend because you’re worried it will end the friendship. Maybe your marriage doesn’t look […]
You have high standards. You want to excel. You believe the pathway to excellence is to beat yourself up. You believe that if you are critical of yourself … you’ll finally shape up and be better. How’s it working for you? Keep your high standards. It’s awesome that you want to excel … we are […]
Why isn’t your life better? Let’s take a moment to listen to how you talk to yourself. Do you say… “I achieved _____but that’s not as good as ________.” “I haven’t achieved enough, yet?” “I should be further along!” Notice how this makes you feel? Do you feel frustrated with yourself? Do you feel unworthy? […]
This isn’t a proud moment right now. But it’s my turn to own my story and love myself in this moment as I share it with you. The objections in my head say Don’t do it! Stop! You know better than to do this now so don’t bother sharing your wrong ways. No one will […]
You live by rules. You’ve accepted these rules as LAW. You let these rules govern you without questioning. You haven’t even considered these rules may not be TRUE. These rules create pressure inside of you. What rules am I talking about? Be a good girl and you will be enough. Be successful and you will […]
You have spent your life being who you thought you were supposed to be. You said what you believed others wanted to hear. You have been hiding your true self from us. Here’s the thing, I want to know what you have to say. I want to know who you are inside. Please stop hiding. […]