If I say no, people will think I am mean.
Only mean people say no.
If you believe no = meanness, then you will have a hard time saying no. Your guilt will override your logic and your desires.
In order to be able to say no to things you don’t want to do and really stick to it, you must change your beliefs. Saying no does not make you a mean person. Repeat it with me, saying no does not make you a mean person.
Speak your truth without guilt, but compassion. Remember compassionate people have boundaries and no is a boundary.
Start here. Why do you want to say no? Get quiet and really listen in to your body. Are you rebelling or is this something you really don’t desire and want to say no to? Trust yourself and say no with lots of loving kindness to the asker and yourself.
Remember, no is a complete sentence.
P.S. For more, check out this podcast episode: It’s an Invitation, Not an Obligation