People have opinions. In fact, they have lots of opinions. And don’t worry, their opinions include judgements about what you should and shouldn’t do. Don’t let their judgements stop you. Instead you must listen to the inside of you. Give your opinion more weight than you do other people’s judgement. Last fall, I was helping […]
My client was going out with her husband to celebrate their anniversary. She picked a hat to wear with her outfit. She was so excited about this hat because she loved the way it looked on her. Then … She got worried. What if her husband didn’t like it? What if he thought she was […]
I seem to talk about this over + over + over again. While we have been culturally programmed to believe it’s nice to people please (AKA – approval whore) it is NOT. When you edit your thoughts, feelings + values to please someone else, you are not letting others get to know the real you. […]
You make a phone call. The other person answers (your friend, sister, mother, brother …). And … you dive right into all your problems and frustrations. You start verbally vomiting. It’s immediate. It follows when they say “hello.” You start talking right away. Without cultivating a connection with “how are you? I’m going through a […]
People often think life is an either/or. Either you sacrifice yourself at work to create the career you want … and your personal life struggles. Or you give up your career to have the family you want. While those are indeed two options, they aren’t the only options. Doing good work does NOT mean you […]
My client was in tears. I asked her, “Do you want to fit in … or belong.” Her response surprised me. “I want to fit in.” Fitting in is an attempt at making yourself who you think others want you to be. Belonging is showing up fully as your complete messy + lovable self. She […]
Movies, songs, tv shows, books, magazines. They’re filled with evidence of the unending quest to find love. The quest for connection. Does your current “state of love” look anything like this artwork by Alexander Milliav? It takes courage to LOVE. It’s so easy to turn our backs on those we love, while at the same […]
I have a lot of clients who are looking for a second chapter in their love lives. They were once married and raised kids. Now they find themselves single. While I don’t think of myself (nor do I advertise myself) as a relationship coach, I do coach a lot of people through these “next chapter” […]
A true question is one where the other person can say YES or NO. Will you do me a favor? Can you close the windows? Will you stop at the store on the way home? Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? We believe we are asking a question because we put a question mark at the end […]