So much talk about setting goals. “Set your goals to obtain them.” But there is more to it … Sometimes we forget that setting goals is only one part of the process. There are also obstacles to achieving one’s goals. And one of those obstacles is to answer the question to “who is it you […]
I was in constant turmoil. I hated my job. I hated my life. Let’s face it, I hated myself. I had to stop living in the swampland of shame. I had run out of friends who were willing to sit around the campfire while I story fondled all of my woes. Actually, they were tired […]
Any of this sound familiar? I’ll never be able to achieve [insert your goal]. What’s wrong with me? I work so hard, yet I’m not as successful as [insert the person you compare yourself with] There must be something wrong with me. I hate myself. I hate my life. Those stories are filled […]
You need to stop believing that making mistakes makes you a failure. I realize we have been taught that mistakes equal an “F” in school … however, my friend, this is life, not the rules of school. Mistakes are lessons learned … and we all go through them (and even need them). Yes, all of […]
You’re not sure. Whether to stay in your marriage, to stay in your job, rebuild that connection in your family, or to finally lose weight after so many failed attempts. Sure, you can quit. That would be fine. Get a divorce. Find a new job. Put up walls with your family and call them all […]
I was heading to sleep when in my inbox I received an invitation. I signed up. I spent the next hour on my iPad surfing around a bunch of boards. I still would not commit to post anything. [My perfectionism can get in the way at the silliest times]. Finally at 11:14 pm I turned […]
Many of my clients are overachievers who have an “all or nothing” mindset. They want to do things perfectly. And if they can not do it pefectly they decide not to do it at all. Doing it all is NOT sustainable. You will NOT be able to do it ALL, all of the time. If […]
This fall I had the honor to work with a group of women. They came to learn and improve themselves. They also had different fears or concerns that made them apprehensive about this commitment they were making. What happened at the end of our time together? They were shocked by how far they had come. […]
A week ago I achieved one of my major (personal) life goals. I had set this goal about 17 years ago. At the time it was a dream. I had not even started on the first part of my journey. I only had an idea or vision of what I wanted for myself. I did […]
I am! I am always looking for the possibilities that exist outside of mainstream thought. Many of us believe there are the standard solutions in life. But I always ask myself “is there more? Is there something else? Is there another way?” What I have found are many different ways to do things and plenty […]