I should know how to do it. I’m so stupid. I can’t ever get it right. Sound familiar? Effective? Only if you want to continue to feel less confident of yourself. Remember we are all newbies in a global pandemic. You aren’t going to know how to do it, you’ll make mistakes not because your […]
Lately I’ve noticed this voice in the back of my head. It’s been there a long time. I just wasn’t aware of the message I was listening to. This voice likes me to believe “it’s all on me!!!!” It really doesn’t matter what “it” is. Before I became aware of this voice, I often acted […]
People often think life is an either/or. Either you sacrifice yourself at work to create the career you want … and your personal life struggles. Or you give up your career to have the family you want. While those are indeed two options, they aren’t the only options. Doing good work does NOT mean you […]
ALERT: You are an adult. You no longer need someone else’s permission. You can give yourself permission. Stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to DO, to BE, to HAVE what you want. As an adult you get to do that. Give yourself permission to: Ask for what you want. Make a mistake. […]
Are you always saying you’re sorry for no REAL reason? If yes, stop that right now! This is part of the cultural programming that has taught women it’s their fault. First, is there anything you need to be apologizing for? Second, dig deep here … do you really mean it or are those words just […]
Two types of leadership. Growing up…there weren’t many female leaders I knew about. On TV the leaders were men. While I had female leaders in the classroom and a powerful force of a mother, until college all of my swimming coaches had been male. I was culturally programmed to not value my mother and the […]
A number of years ago, a thoughtful, long-time listener sent me an email. She asked me to consider to stop using the term “approval whore.” She believed it was demeaning. Over the next few months, I percolated on her email. While I understood her point of view, I also came to realize exactly why […]
Being a more badass version of yourself isn’t about being cocky or arrogant. It’s about you being YOU. It’s about you returning to yourself. It’s taking off all the damn armour you’ve accumulated over the years. You know … Perfectionism Judgement Hiding Self-sabotage Being afraid to fully embrace joy in your life Sarcasm Approval whoring, […]