There’s a stirring inside of you. You know it’s a painful feeling. You don’t want to feel it. You’ve tried to numb it, and have run out of tv shows to watch. You’ve tried to outrun it, but that’s hard to do when you’re sheltered at home. You’ve tried to busy yourself, but there’s only […]
You’re in constant turmoil over what other people think about you, your choices + actions. You try to hide away so you aren’t seen + criticized. You don’t own your voice and speak your truth. You act the way you are supposed to act to gain other people’s approval. The problem … by worrying about what other […]
There’s a lot of uncertainty in our world right now. With the uncertainty is a lot of information, worry, + panic. Our brains are quickly processing all the information and we have thousands upon thousands of thoughts running through our brain. Many of us are experiencing anxiety. According to Dr. Harriet Lerner, we deal with […]
Last week, one of my clients told me, “my feelings aren’t valid unless someone else takes them seriously.” Is that ABSOLUTELY true? Before we go any further. The answer is YES or NO. I know that will trigger a lot of …”but Koren …” Let’s try this again. Is it ABSOLUTELY true that your feelings […]
MYTH: You can love others more than you love yourself. FACT: Your ability to love others is correlated to your ability to love yourself. Almost a decade ago I read this mind shattering fact in Brené Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection as I was preparing for my first interview with her. Her research showed […]
I seem to talk about this over + over + over again. While we have been culturally programmed to believe it’s nice to people please (AKA – approval whore) it is NOT. When you edit your thoughts, feelings + values to please someone else, you are not letting others get to know the real you. […]
I’m rather fortunate. I’m a female born in the United States of America. While my family was poor, I was always safe and out of harm’s way from the dangers of the world. Today, as a middle-aged woman, I live in an affluent, educated, + relatively safe community. I realize I’m lucky compared to so […]
Are you mad at yourself? You know better, but you just aren’t doing better? It’s time to forgive yourself. Yes, forgive. Forgiveness does not mean what you did was okay. To forgive yourself is to let those painful stories die. In order to do this, you must first own the story. Own what you did […]
At the beginning we’re often excited. At the end, we’re trying to figure out where the time went. But what about the middle? It is so often ignored. We take it for granted. We become numb. We don’t appreciate it because we believe there will always be more time. Until the day comes and our […]
My clients are smart, hard working overachievers. They often identify themselves as high achievers. Because they “know” that overachiever is not a “good” title to have. They are soooooooooo hard on themselves. On the outside they are perceived as having it made. They’re “Successful!” They are perceived as being confident. Oh my friend, on the […]