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WHERE ARE YOU ROOTED?

Posted on December 22, 2020

Think of yourself as a tree. Stay with me now. You are a tree. Solid trunk.  Lots of branches and leaves. Now think about your roots. Where are your roots growing? Are they growing in toxic soil? Are they growing in rich + robust soil? Now let’s think about our emotional states as soil. Shame […]

How to act with confidence when you hate yourself

Posted on November 10, 2020

You can’t act with confidence when you hate yourself. That would not be confidence, it would be a lie. Let’s look at the definition of confidence: the state of feeling certain about the truth of something. a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. the feeling or belief that […]

Loving yourself is the gift you can give others.

Posted on November 3, 2020

Start with LOVE. Love leads to more LOVE. It’s not selfish or being self absorbed to love yourself. Loving yourself is to your ability to love others. Love yourself first and then you have the ability to extend that love to others in every encounter. When you love yourself, you are filled with LOVE. When […]

How to move through your feelings

How to move through your feelings

Posted on July 14, 2020

There’s a stirring inside of you. You know it’s a painful feeling. You don’t want to feel it. You’ve tried to numb it, and have run out of tv shows to watch. You’ve tried to outrun it, but that’s hard to do when you’re sheltered at home. You’ve tried to busy yourself, but there’s only […]

Judge not

Judge Not

Posted on June 23, 2020

You’re in constant turmoil over what other people think about you, your choices + actions. You try to hide away so you aren’t seen + criticized. You don’t own your voice and speak your truth. You act the way you are supposed to act to gain other people’s approval. The problem … by worrying about what other […]

How to move through anxiety

Posted on May 19, 2020

There’s a lot of uncertainty in our world right now. With the uncertainty is a lot of information, worry, + panic. Our brains are quickly processing all the information and we have thousands upon thousands of thoughts running through our brain. Many of us are experiencing anxiety. According to Dr. Harriet Lerner, we deal with […]

How to validate what you’re feeling

Posted on May 12, 2020

Last week, one of my clients told me, “my feelings aren’t valid unless someone else takes them seriously.” Is that ABSOLUTELY true? Before we go any further. The answer is YES or NO. I know that will trigger a lot of …”but Koren …” Let’s try this again. Is it ABSOLUTELY true that your feelings […]

You can’t give what you don’t have.

Posted on April 21, 2020

MYTH: You can love others more than you love yourself. FACT: Your ability to love others is correlated to your ability to love yourself. Almost a decade ago I read this mind shattering fact in Brené Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection as I was preparing for my first interview with her. Her research showed […]

Don’t edit your thoughts, feelings + values to please someone else

Posted on March 31, 2020

I seem to talk about this over + over + over again. While we have been culturally programmed to believe it’s nice to people please (AKA – approval whore) it is NOT. When you edit your thoughts, feelings + values to please someone else, you are not letting others get to know the real you. […]

The most dangerous place in the world

Posted on January 21, 2020

I’m rather fortunate. I’m a female born in the United States of America. While my family was poor, I was always safe and out of harm’s way from the dangers of the world. Today, as a middle-aged woman, I live in an affluent, educated, + relatively safe community. I realize I’m lucky compared to so […]

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Torie Henderson: Talk with your kids about sex [Wisdom Wednesday]

Karla McLaren: The Language of Emotions [Wisdom Wednesday]

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Celebrations with Karen Walrond [Wisdom Wednesday]

Mark Butler: Stop defining yourself with money [Wisdom Wednesday]

Own Your Value + Value What You Bring Part 2 with Michele Woodward [Wisdom Wednesday]

Owning Your Value + Value What You Bring with Hiro Boga [Wisdom Wednesday]

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