It’s a lie to believe you can somehow set up a life free of shit storms. The storm is coming … are you prepared? Shit storms are where growth occurs and transformation can happen. Your brain tells you to play it safe … “No shit storms allowed.” However, without them you’d stagnate, and you don’t […]
Does any of this sound familiar? You’ve achieved great success in your career … but you still second guess yourself. You’ve created a good professional life … but your personal life doesn’t match. You’re smart and have the degrees to prove it … but you still believe you are a fraud. On the outside you […]
Think of yourself as a tree. Stay with me now. You are a tree. Solid trunk. Lots of branches and leaves. Now think about your roots. Where are your roots growing? Are they growing in toxic soil? Are they growing in rich + robust soil? Now let’s think about our emotional states as soil. Shame […]
Often my clients struggle with self-confidence in either their professional or personal lives. They find themselves confident in one part of their life but not in others. They believe the solution is to work harder to become more confident in the other parts. They’ve followed the promise of achieving X and the result will be […]
I’m not appreciated. I often hear this from clients when they are verbal vomiting the painful stories in their head about an area they are struggling with. A magic trick I have to stop the vomit is to ask “how does it serve you to believe you are not appreciated.” The immediate answer, It doesn’t […]
You can’t act with confidence when you hate yourself. That would not be confidence, it would be a lie. Let’s look at the definition of confidence: the state of feeling certain about the truth of something. a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. the feeling or belief that […]
You have spent your life being who you thought you were supposed to be. You said what you believed others wanted to hear. You have been hiding your true self from us. Here’s the thing, I want to know what you have to say. I want to know who you are inside. Please stop hiding. […]
I know … you were taught differently about LOVE. To be worthy of love you were taught to: Have high standards for yourself. Excel. Achieve and finally be worthy of love. You also learned to beat yourself up when you didn’t achieve, to drive yourself to finally achieving. You believed that if you are critical […]
On the outside you look like you are confident, enjoy your life + are happy. On the inside there is a mighty war going on that only you know about. This war is ravaging you internally. The war is about not being: successful enough smart enough good enough pretty enough Inside you beat yourself down […]
Why do we care about other people’s judgement? Because it threatens our belonging … or so we believe. We are hardwired for connection. We want a place to belong. Judgement does NOT feel safe. Judgement is rooted in SHAME…you know that damn voice of “not enough.” Here’s the thing, other people’s judgement has nothing to […]