On the outside you look like you are confident, enjoy your life + are happy.
On the inside there is a mighty war going on that only you know about.
This war is ravaging you internally.
The war is about not being:
- successful enough
- smart enough
- good enough
- pretty enough
Inside you beat yourself down because you don’t believe you measure up.
When you can no longer take your self-beatings, you puff up against your inner critic.
Puffing up is when you become self-righteous to overcome your internal pain from the beatings.
You swing on the pendulum from self-hatred to I am the best ever!
Now you puff up by telling yourself:
- I’m amazing.
- I’m the best they have.
- I’m so much smarter than those losers!
- I’m so beautiful.
The pendulum swing is exhausting and that is where the mighty war lives. In the space of beating yourself up and then puffing up in a self-righteous way.
Instead, end the mighty war. Stop beating yourself up.Stop puffing yourself up with self-righteousness.
Instead own your strengths.Own your weaknesses. It’s all a part of you.
The space in between your self-hatred and self-righteousness is compassion. This is where you want to live and put your focus.
From this place of compassion, you can evaluate what is working well + what needs improvement.
Then you can make your commitment to improve the things that are important to you and let go of the things that aren’t a priority right now.
You will end the mighty war with yourself when you live in a place of self-compassion.
Then your insides will match your outsides.
P.S. Oh and whenever you’re ready, there are 3 great ways to end the mighty war with yourself.