Often my clients struggle with self-confidence in either their professional or personal lives.
They find themselves confident in one part of their life but not in others. They believe the solution is to work harder to become more confident in the other parts.
They’ve followed the promise of achieving X and the result will be CONFIDENCE.
But this has put them on the hamster wheel of achievement as they have created a paradigm that confidence comes from what they do instead of from what they believe about who they are.
Examples of this are, once I:
- Get this job … I will be confident.
- Find the love of my life … I will be confident.
- Get this promotion … I will be confident.
- Make $[fill in the amount] … I will be confident.
The hamster wheel is when you achieve those goals … but still don’t feel confident.
But that’s the promise of achieving X and the result will be CONFIDENCE.
So why didn’t confidence come?
Because confidence is an inside job.
You must feel confident because of what you believe about yourself.
- trust yourself.
- own your strengths and your flaws.
- remember we all have flaws
- acknowledge what needs to improve.
Instead of having confidence come after the achievement, have it come before.
Meredith Viera joining the hit television show Today is an example of being confident before achieving something.
Viera was confident before getting the job on the biggest morning television show in the United States.
Her confidence was one of the KEY reasons she caught the eye of NBC Universal CEO Jeff Zucker for the co-anchor position on the Today show.
Meredith Viera didn’t become confident because she was offered or obtained the role of co-anchor on the Today show. She was already confident and her confidence is what attracted them to her.
Follow Meredith’s example and get your confidence from inside of you.
Let the world see it.
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