You believe you must do better. You believe you must be better. STOP right now. Did you know we are hardwired to grow? Let’s look at babies. They live the life of luxury. 👶 A baby cries and gets fed. 👶 A baby pees/poops and gets changed. 👶 A baby gets carried and swaddled. 👶 […]
What is success? What do you know for sure? What are your values? What are your priorities? My friend … it’s your job to answer these questions. I realize this may be news to you. You’ve let others define it for you. Your parents. Your friends. Your mentors. Your school. No one gets to write […]
During the summer I have a lot of new parents in the AquaMonsters (youth swim team I’m the director of) and their biggest concern is entrusting their child to my program. They are worried their child will drown in our program. Yes this is their fear talking. Yes it’s irrational. And yes it creates a […]
You want the guaranteed outcome. We all do. Then you can eliminate risk. You will be productive + efficient. You will know you made the right choice. You won’t lose face and have to deal with that awful feeling of SHAME. Sounds lovely. My friend, it’s a big fat lie. There is NO guaranteed outcome. […]
My clients are high achievers. They are smart, intelligent, hard workers. Here’s the thing … many wouldn’t even use those words to identify themselves. They usually come to me and say they aren’t disciplined. They may want to be perceived as smart, but they aren’t confident that that’s really the case because they are so […]
I have a long held belief … there has got to be a better way. I hated the movie As Good as it Gets with Jack Nicholson and Helen Hunt. I believe in being a deliberate creator in our life. I believe in possibilities for all of us. Not just those who have had great […]
You’ve been around here listening to the podcast How She Really Does It: The Place Where Inspiration + Possibility Meet for a while now. You’ve been an engaged reader of my SUNDAY LOVE email. You know what to do. I’ve given you the coaching tools … yet you still aren’t doing it. You don’t make […]
You know self-compassion is what you’re supposed to do Self-compassion is the antidote to shame. Self-compassion is the pathway for you to cultivate your own worthiness. BUT … you suck at being self-compassionate! So, what do you do? CAUTION: This is the beginning of a downward spiral of self-beating and self-hatred, only getting you further […]
Believing in YOU is vulnerable. There’s a ton of risk …. what will others think??? We’ve been programmed to not be “too much.” My friend … believing in yourself is not being too much. Think about all those little toddlers who believe in themselves. We adore them. They believe in their ability to crawl, to […]
I grew up poor. I thought having “the things I was supposed to have” would allow me to finally be worthy of love + belonging. This was unfortunately my thinking at the ripe old age of 10 years old. Wow! Back in the 1980s, Minnetonka Moccasin shoes were a must have item for girls. I […]