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Pick yourself

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I used to believe others were the chosen ones, that I was the loser.  If only I were good enough, they would choose me. This led me down the path of becoming an approval whore, waiting around for others to choose me. I know you are wondering how that worked out for me … It […]

When we compare, we despair

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I’ve just returned from one of those life big moments. My husband was inducted in the American Swim Coaches Hall of Fame for his body of work over the past 34 years, developing 2 Olympians ,1 Paralympian, and thousands of others. Over the years I’ve been on “both sides of the curtain.” On the outside […]

Choose who you become

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The conversations with clients + my AquaMonster parents, usually turn to their fears around raising their kids. They worry that they’re raising their kids “wrong” … they worry about messing up their kids … they worry about something bad happening to their child and that that something will define the rest of their child’s life. […]

What obstacles are you willing to overcome

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How often do you say to yourself: “This isn’t supposed to be happening!” I used to say it whenever an obstacle happened in my life. What kind of obstacle: An employee leaving for a new job. My kids leaving a trail of socks throughout the house. My child with an injury. My lack of cooking […]

Can you do this? Can you really do this?

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Self-doubt is a door slammer. Before Sheri (name has been changed) began working with me, she was the queen of indulgent mental drama. But on the outside she didn’t look like someone who was full of self-doubt. She had the fancy IVY League diplomas from both undergrad and grad school. She the letters at the […]

Being your own best friend ISN’T selfish

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We all love Brené Brown’s message (well, except for a few people like my husband). When she speaks about vulnerability, it sounds amazing. However, to actually live it is another thing. It really kind of sucks. It’s uncomfortable. It’s messy. It takes time. It takes courage. It isn’t easy. And we often do it wrong […]

Stop being disappointed.

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You don’t pursue what you really want because you’re afraid you’ll be disappointed. Disappointed in the outcome … but more importantly disappointed in yourself. This creates a downward spiral inside of you. You’ll create limiting stories about you + what’s possible for you: It’s not possible for me. See … people really don’t like me. […]

My not so proud moments.

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This isn’t a proud moment right now.  But it’s my turn to own my story and love myself in this moment as I share it with you.  The objections in my head say Don’t do it! Stop! You know better than to do this now so don’t bother sharing your wrong ways.  No one will […]

What gets in the way of your worthiness?

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Culturally, we’ve been programmed that in order to be worthy you must be: Perfect. Beautiful. Smart. Successful. Kind to others before you are kind to yourself. This does not leave any space to make mistakes, to fall down, and to have bad hair days. We’ve been set up to forever be hustling for our worthiness. […]

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