Any of this sound familiar? I’ll never be able to achieve [insert your goal]. What’s wrong with me? I work so hard, yet I’m not as successful as [insert the person you compare yourself with] There must be something wrong with me. I hate myself. I hate my life. Those stories are filled […]
People pleasing sounds like a good thing …
A number of years ago, a thoughtful, long-time listener sent me an email. She asked me to consider to stop using the term “approval whore.” She believed it was demeaning. Over the next few months, I percolated on her email. While I understood her point of view, I also came to realize exactly why […]
No one is allowed to drown
My clients often put up a lot of resistance to committing to their best case scenario. They tend to throw a lot of “but …” sentences out there, reasons why they can’t possibly commit. To help them overcome this resistance, I share ideas about committing to the best case scenario, while also managing risk. During […]
How to Become the Badass Version of Yourself
Being a more badass version of yourself isn’t about being cocky or arrogant. It’s about you being YOU. It’s about you returning to yourself. It’s taking off all the damn armour you’ve accumulated over the years. You know … Perfectionism Judgement Hiding Self-sabotage Being afraid to fully embrace joy in your life Sarcasm Approval whoring, […]
If you don’t believe in yourself, who will?
The greatest thing you can do is believe in yourself. Think about it for a moment. If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? Often, my clients are upset. They believe it’s because of other people’s judgement of them, but it’s really that they have an unconscious rule they live by. This rule is “their […]
You’re NOT doing it wrong.
There’s a voice inside you that you disregard. Instead of listening to your own voice, you listen to the voices of others … people you may not even know. Then you tell yourself — because your voice is different than the others — “you’re doing it wrong.” STOP DOING THAT (I say this with lots […]
Confusing belonging with fitting in
My client was in tears. I asked her, “Do you want to fit in … or belong.” Her response surprised me. “I want to fit in.” Fitting in is an attempt at making yourself who you think others want you to be. Belonging is showing up fully as your complete messy + lovable self. She […]
Choose what you believe about yourself
When I ask people what they believe about themselves, they say things like this … I am hard working. I care deeply. I must work really hard. I never get it all done. I am not lovable. I can’t have what I really want. I will never be enough. What do you believe about […]
10 Ways to Practice Gratitude
We know we’re supposed be practicing gratitude, yet we still don’t do it. Instead of wasting precious hours of your life trying to analyze why (or feeling guilt about it), how about getting right down to a few simple ways of actually doing it? Here are 10 ways you can practice your gratitude … Allow […]
The one thing it takes to truly live this thing called LIFE.
Shame is what threatens your place of love + belonging. When you struggle with shame — and we all do — you can: Try to outrun it. However, it is always there. Wherever you are, there it is, inside of you. Sell yourself out in order to please others in your life. While we think […]
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