- I’ll never be able to achieve [insert your goal].
- What’s wrong with me? I work so hard, yet I’m not as successful as [insert the person you compare yourself with]
- There must be something wrong with me.
- I hate myself.
- I hate my life.
Those stories are filled with self-hatred.
Why do we do this to ourselves?
Because we’ve been culturally programmed to beat the crap out of ourselves in order to motivate ourselves to do better …
How’s that working for you?
Beating yourself up only leads to a life in the swampland of shame.
This only heaps more misery onto those already painful feelings you’re experiencing.
My clients are all recovering over-achievers.
They have attained a very high level of success for themselves using self-hatred as a motivator … while on the outside, they look like they have achieved success, happiness + confidence in themselves.
On this inside, they are exhausted from all the self-hatred and grueling hours of working and over-delivering to try and make themselves finally worthy.
They come to me because their way is NOT sustainable + that pain drives them to look for a better way than self-hatred and over-achieving.
I teach them compassion.
I teach them to become their own best friend.
I show them their worthiness – right here, right now. Not after they have achieved something.
What happens next?
They learn the power of compassion in their lives.
They become their own best friend.
They love all of themselves.
The ironic thing is — from this place — they achieve their goals without overworking, perfectionism, and self-hatred.
They have energy.
They are enjoying their life.
Most importantly, they now feel worthy before they achieve, and are able to achieve so much more from this place of worthiness.
Want some help writing a new story for the next chapter of your life? One who’s plot is not driven by self-hatred? Join me for three hours of coaching and learning at the Mindset Workshop.