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The most dangerous place in the world

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I’m rather fortunate. I’m a female born in the United States of America. While my family was poor, I was always safe and out of harm’s way from the dangers of the world. Today, as a middle-aged woman, I live in an affluent, educated, + relatively safe community. I realize I’m lucky compared to so […]

Let the painful story die.

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Are you mad at yourself? You know better, but you just aren’t doing better? It’s time to forgive yourself. Yes, forgive.   Forgiveness does not mean what you did was okay. To forgive yourself is to let those painful stories die. In order to do this, you must first own the story.   Own what you did […]

HERE’S HOW TO ENJOY YOUR LIFE

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We get so accustomed to the difficulty in our lives.  While we want to enjoy our lives … it requires vulnerability. And we all know how much we dislike vulnerability.  While VULNERABILITY is a popular buzzword these days because of Brené Brown’s insightful work, that doesn’t make living with it easy.  Vulnerability is UNCERTAINTY, EMOTIONAL […]

Once in a lifetime …Really?

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Years ago a friend of mine was going on her dream trip to Italy. She was so excited. She couldn’t wait to go and experience her upcoming holiday. She kept telling me this was a “once in a lifetime trip!!!” WHAT???? She was 35 years old. Did she really think this was her one + […]

enJOY the middle.

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At the beginning we’re often excited. At the end, we’re trying to figure out where the time went. But what about the middle? It is so often ignored. We take it for granted. We become numb. We don’t appreciate it because we believe there will always be more time. Until the day comes and our […]

Am I normal? Is this normal?

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The quality of the questions you ask affects the quality of your life. Your question is a window to the answer you seek. Your question helps your brain focus on where to look for an answer. I often get asked: “Am I normal?” “Is this normal?” When either of these questions are asked … the […]

I didn’t want to waste the time.

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I didn’t want to waste the time.. Because I had a belief I needed to get home. But, did I really not have some time??? I wanted to go and explore. I didn’t have to be home. I had the freedom. I had the time. I had the white space. I gave myself permission to […]

Who do you need to become, in order to reach your goals?

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So much talk about setting goals. “Set your goals to obtain them.” But there is more to it … Sometimes we forget that setting goals is only one part of the process. There are also obstacles to achieving one’s goals. And one of those obstacles is to answer the question to “who is it you […]

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