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She needs you

Posted on February 21, 2023

Let’s say you have a friend who’s fierce. She is strong and capable. Do you ever reach out to her to see how she’s really doing? Might be a tough thing to do. Since she’s strong and capable, she may not be used to letting you in. But here’s the thing, we all need to […]

DON’T ANSWER TEXTS … IF YOU CAN’T ANSWER!

Posted on November 15, 2022

I was in the middle of a text conversation with someone I care about. There was some vulnerable sharing that was occuring in the texts. The problem I have with texting … I don’t have to be fully committed to the “conversation.” I can get distracted + stop texting. Thereby, ghosting the other person. This […]

I want them to know … no matter what … they belong

Posted on November 1, 2022

Growing up…I believed there was something wrong with me. I was different. I was tall….ALWAYS, even in Kindergarten.  I was biracial.  My mom is Korean but I don’t look Asian. I was poor. Well not me … but my family didn’t have much financially. Most of my life I felt like the black sheep. I […]

How to be a good friend

Posted on September 20, 2022

It’s so fascinating. You know a lot of people. You have a lot of friends on FB. Yet … you still feel alone. You want a place to belong. You hunger for friendship. You tell yourself stories that these women you admire, they already have a lot of friends. You tell yourself, you won’t be […]

People pleasing isn’t nice

Posted on August 30, 2022

I actually call it approval whoring. I have a very specific reason for this. People pleasing is misleading and sounds like a NICE thing to do for others. Whore vs. Please. Whore = not acceptable in society. Please = how we, especially as women, are culturally programmed to BE in our lives. Now let’s take […]

Let go of other people’s opinions

Posted on July 19, 2022

You hear their voices. You worry about what other people think. You let others stop you from doing what you want. You don’t speak up, because you’re afraid of what others will think. It’s time to let go of other people’s opinions. While you may mistakenly believe this allows you to be safe, you’ve allowed […]

It’s the little things …

Posted on May 24, 2022

I understand.  You get busy … You didn’t realize … That your relationships with your girlfriends are created by the little things. But, you’ve discounted the little things. Instead you listen to the voice in the back of your head: “It doesn’t matter.” “No one will notice.” “She won’t care.” “It’s really not that big […]

Have you had that friend …

Posted on June 22, 2021

You know that friend you’ve known for twenty years, the one you only see once every 1-3 years? You always think she’s going to tell you how fantastic her life is now, after all these years. But while time has passed by … she tells you the same sad story about her troubles.  Now the […]

This is not nice

Posted on February 9, 2021

Do you have that friend who is so nice and sweet? She uses loving words. She tells you how amazing you are. She calls you beautiful + amazing. Her words feel so good to you. You are drawn to her because you love how she sees you and, heck, it’s good for your ego. BUT […]

Am I what other people say about me?

Posted on May 26, 2020

Your biggest fear is what other people say about you. So you hustle for others to approve of you. You tell other people what you believe they want to hear. You do what other people want you to do. In fact you spend so much time and energy trying to control what other people say […]

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