I’m rather fortunate. I’m a female born in the United States of America. While my family was poor, I was always safe and out of harm’s way from the dangers of the world. Today, as a middle-aged woman, I live in an affluent, educated, + relatively safe community. I realize I’m lucky compared to so […]
Are you mad at yourself? You know better, but you just aren’t doing better? It’s time to forgive yourself. Yes, forgive. Forgiveness does not mean what you did was okay. To forgive yourself is to let those painful stories die. In order to do this, you must first own the story. Own what you did […]
We get so accustomed to the difficulty in our lives. While we want to enjoy our lives … it requires vulnerability. And we all know how much we dislike vulnerability. While VULNERABILITY is a popular buzzword these days because of Brené Brown’s insightful work, that doesn’t make living with it easy. Vulnerability is UNCERTAINTY, EMOTIONAL […]
Years ago a friend of mine was going on her dream trip to Italy. She was so excited. She couldn’t wait to go and experience her upcoming holiday. She kept telling me this was a “once in a lifetime trip!!!” WHAT???? She was 35 years old. Did she really think this was her one + […]
At the beginning we’re often excited. At the end, we’re trying to figure out where the time went. But what about the middle? It is so often ignored. We take it for granted. We become numb. We don’t appreciate it because we believe there will always be more time. Until the day comes and our […]
The quality of the questions you ask affects the quality of your life. Your question is a window to the answer you seek. Your question helps your brain focus on where to look for an answer. I often get asked: “Am I normal?” “Is this normal?” When either of these questions are asked … the […]
I didn’t want to waste the time.. Because I had a belief I needed to get home. But, did I really not have some time??? I wanted to go and explore. I didn’t have to be home. I had the freedom. I had the time. I had the white space. I gave myself permission to […]
You don’t want to be selfish. You’ve been taught — or rather, culturally programmed — in order to be a good enough wife and mother you must put everyone else ahead of YOU. In fact, your teens are more than happy to ensure this message on a daily basis. At work, your supposed to be […]
I get it…you aren’t sure. ….What if you’re wrong? …What if you’re mistaken? ….Maybe someone else knows better? My friend, while it can seem lovely for others to believe in you…it’s just not sustainable. It’s less vulnerable to have others believe in you, than for you to believe in you…and quite possibly be wrong. Here’s […]
You’re a hard worker. You’re a high achiever. You’ve been taught, “Good things happen to those who work hard.” When you don’t think you are ENOUGH … you then go into overdrive and OVERACHIEVE. Work longer hours. Do more for others. Sacrifice yourself for the good of others. THE PROBLEM: You’re exhausted. You’ve literally run […]