Seems like it was another lifetime ago. I was skeptical. I was judgmental. I was filled with self-loathing. I was exhausted … And I was hopeful for something better. It was 2001 + I happened upon Oprah interviewing Julia Roberts on her show. I hadn’t watched it since the late ‘80s, I wasn’t that kind […]
When my clients first come to me, they think it’s because of their circumstances – the job, the relationship, the money, the weight. But really, it comes down to the stories they tell themselves. My amazing, smart, brilliant, beautiful, strong, and capable clients come to me with the stories of not being enough. You know […]
Baseball has great lessons for life, even if you’re like me and not a baseball fan. While I never watch baseball on television, on occasion I’ll go with my lifelong Giants fan husband to a game. Even though I don’t love baseball, I love to read lots of baseball books. There are so many good […]
Why isn’t your life better? Let’s take a moment to listen to how you talk to yourself. Do you say… “I achieved _____but that’s not as good as ________.” “I haven’t achieved enough, yet?” “I should be further along!” Notice how this makes you feel? Do you feel frustrated with yourself? Do you feel unworthy? […]
As the leader of your life, YOU get to listen to you … as well as a few trusted advisors. As the leader of your life, YOU get to be authentically you … instead of who others want you to be. As the leader of your life, YOU get to decide how you want to […]
… but I secretly read People. I sneak peaks of the titles while standing in line at the grocery store. I sneak reads of the articles while visiting my dentist. I want to be a person who reads the New Yorker as I want to be perceived as being intelligent and well-read. I don’t want […]
“Approval whoring” does not sound nice. Why not use “people pleasing” instead? People pleasing sounds nice. Women have been culturally programmed to be nice. Women have been culturally programmed to put other people’s needs before their own. Women have been culturally programmed that if we are nice and put people’s needs in front of our […]
“What’s wrong with me?” “Why am I not doing what I should be doing?” Two reasons there’s a gap between what you know and what you do: The questions above lead to self-hatred … which is rooted in the feeling of SHAME. When rooted in SHAME, you either hide away or beat the crap out […]
You want to change your life. You want to like yourself. You want to work on your personal development. BUT … you don’t have enough time! Let’s get to the root cause of not enough time. “I don’t have enough time” is a limiting belief. Because you don’t believe you matter there will never be […]
One of my strengths is my ability to be courageous. I work on being courageous in my life, by writing you these emails, by owning my voice, by sharing what I believe with you, my friends and my family. Often times my own family can be the hardest place to show up and own my […]