I’m not appreciated. I often hear this from clients when they are verbal vomiting the painful stories in their head about an area they are struggling with. A magic trick I have to stop the vomit is to ask “how does it serve you to believe you are not appreciated.” The immediate answer, It doesn’t […]
There’s one thing that’s getting in the way of your confidence. You believe it’s either: Your lack of achieving your goals + desires. All the demands placed on your life + schedule. Your lot in life. Actually it’s not any of those life circumstances. It’s what you believe. It’s your thought. It’s a sentence in […]
You can’t act with confidence when you hate yourself. That would not be confidence, it would be a lie. Let’s look at the definition of confidence: the state of feeling certain about the truth of something. a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. the feeling or belief that […]
I have several clients who are strong independant, intelligent women. They are badass leaders in their professional lives. They support so many people, communities and help others rise up. They have created a life where they are not dependent on anyone. They have financial resources to take care of them. Many of them have chosen […]
Recently, I was hiking along the beautiful Amalfi Coast. Actually, I was hiking alongside a cliff. There were lots of rocks and rubble. The interesting thing was that the paths most walked were well-worn and also the most slippery + dangerous. This is a great metaphor for life. How often are the paths most walked […]
When you lead you want to be confident. For example, when you are leading a meeting … do it with confidence. Be confident: In yourself. In what you are going to deliver. In your ability to run the meeting. Then the meeting will be effective! But … you ask … how do you know the […]
I can’t cook. I can’t get organized. I can’t write. Remind you of how you’ve been talking to yourself? Do you focus on what you can’t do instead of what you CAN do? How’s that working for you Are you stuck? Do you beat yourself up because you story fondle all the things you can’t […]
My client was in tears. I asked her, “Do you want to fit in … or belong.” Her response surprised me. “I want to fit in.” Fitting in is an attempt at making yourself who you think others want you to be. Belonging is showing up fully as your complete messy + lovable self. She […]
I’m rather fortunate. I’m a female born in the United States of America. While my family was poor, I was always safe and out of harm’s way from the dangers of the world. Today, as a middle-aged woman, I live in an affluent, educated, + relatively safe community. I realize I’m lucky compared to so […]
Are you mad at yourself? You know better, but you just aren’t doing better? It’s time to forgive yourself. Yes, forgive. Forgiveness does not mean what you did was okay. To forgive yourself is to let those painful stories die. In order to do this, you must first own the story. Own what you did […]