You don’t want to be selfish. You’ve been taught — or rather, culturally programmed — in order to be a good enough wife and mother you must put everyone else ahead of YOU. In fact, your teens are more than happy to ensure this message on a daily basis. At work, your supposed to be […]
I get it…you aren’t sure. ….What if you’re wrong? …What if you’re mistaken? ….Maybe someone else knows better? My friend, while it can seem lovely for others to believe in you…it’s just not sustainable. It’s less vulnerable to have others believe in you, than for you to believe in you…and quite possibly be wrong. Here’s […]
You think you’re a fraud. You don’t know how to show up in your life because of this story. So you hide away. You don’t show up. You don’t speak out. You don’t create what you want in your life. Let’s take a look at the definition of fraud: “A person or thing intended to […]
You’re a hard worker. You’re a high achiever. You’ve been taught, “Good things happen to those who work hard.” When you don’t think you are ENOUGH … you then go into overdrive and OVERACHIEVE. Work longer hours. Do more for others. Sacrifice yourself for the good of others. THE PROBLEM: You’re exhausted. You’ve literally run […]
As a kid growing up in a lot of shame, I did not believe I belonged. As an adult, it’s important for me to create environments of inclusive cultures. The theme song of my life is from the television show Cheers. I have cultivated the AquaMonsters to be a place of belonging. Our team motto […]
There’s an internal rumbling. It’s uncomfortable. It’s painful. All you want to do is get rid of it. You do that by complaining. You find short-term relief by letting it out. By complaining, you’re offloading your pain onto someone else. It feels good … kind of like throwing up after a big ole’ tummy ache. […]
Does the judgement of other people stop you in your tracks? Are you afraid of being judged, and “stay small” in your life? Here’s the thing … no matter what, people will judge you. In fact, it’s not really other people’s judgement we are afraid of. It’s that their judgement could be true. Instead […]
In my swimming world, I am faced with a lot of obstacles surrounding “the story of swim meets.” Years ago, Dan Pink and I had a discussion about swim meets. He did not like them, “you spent all day and if you weren’t paying attention, could miss your child’s 14 second race.” Unfortunately, while Dan […]
The greatest thing you can do is believe in yourself. Think about it for a moment. If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? Often, my clients are upset. They believe it’s because of other people’s judgement of them, but it’s really that they have an unconscious rule they live by. This rule is “their […]
We know we’re supposed be practicing gratitude, yet we still don’t do it. Instead of wasting precious hours of your life trying to analyze why (or feeling guilt about it), how about getting right down to a few simple ways of actually doing it? Here are 10 ways you can practice your gratitude … Allow […]