I have several clients who are strong independant, intelligent women. They are badass leaders in their professional lives. They support so many people, communities and help others rise up. They have created a life where they are not dependent on anyone. They have financial resources to take care of them. Many of them have chosen to live alone for the time being. And now COVID-19 comes with social distancing which is creating self-isolation for them.
As a feminist I get it. The message I received growing up, in order to be fully empowered, I wasn’t to rely on anyone. Do it for yourself. Take care of yourself so you will be safe as you know you will be there in the end.
Now COVID-19 and social distancing is creating self-isolation for those at home by themselves.
What to do when the isolation is getting to be a lot?
Acknowledge what you are feeling?
As strong, self-reliant women we tend to discount our difficulties as we figure there are so many more important hardships others are experiencing, especially right now. We need to stop discounting our feelings. Instead give yourself permission to feel your feelings regardless of how much you do have to be grateful for today in your life.
This is important, so you don’t blow up, or have a panic attack at some other point down the line when your leadership/support is needed.
Give yourself permission to feel the feeling to let it out so you can move through it.
Unpack what thought is creating this feeling inside of you? Below are some examples:
- Lonely ➜ I’m all by myself.
- Sad ➜ I’m alone because I haven’t found someone to share my life with.
- Afraid ➜ I don’t know how long I can do this for.
- Shame ➜ Other people have family to live with, and I don’t.
Please be mindful of the thoughts you attach to during this time of social-isolation as they can lead to a downward emotional spiral for you.
Instead remind yourself what is true:
- You are indeed lovable.
- You desire connection.
- You aren’t meant to do this alone. None of us are.
Then get curious about ways to create connections in your life.
- Listen to podcasts and books.
- Have a facetime or ZOOM coffee dates.
- Go on a walk + call a friend.
- Give yourself a hug.
- Be kind to yourself.
- Talk loving to yourself.
- Grieve the loss of physical connection with others.
- Love yourself during this challenging time.
I realize this isn’t the ending you wanted. I love the fairy tales and happy endings, however in this time of COVID we are all practicing our resilience each day.
Be kind to you.
Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship.
I think of you often.
Know there are others thinking of you during this time.
You matter my friend.
Sending you love,
P.S. Let’s hang out together. We can connect HERE ❤️