“What’s wrong with me?” “Why am I not doing what I should be doing?” Two reasons there’s a gap between what you know and what you do: The questions above lead to self-hatred … which is rooted in the feeling of SHAME. When rooted in SHAME, you either hide away or beat the crap out […]
You want to change your life. You want to like yourself. You want to work on your personal development. BUT … you don’t have enough time! Let’s get to the root cause of not enough time. “I don’t have enough time” is a limiting belief. Because you don’t believe you matter there will never be […]
One of my strengths is my ability to be courageous. I work on being courageous in my life, by writing you these emails, by owning my voice, by sharing what I believe with you, my friends and my family. Often times my own family can be the hardest place to show up and own my […]
I’m not appreciated. I often hear this from clients when they are verbal vomiting the painful stories in their head about an area they are struggling with. A magic trick I have to stop the vomit is to ask “how does it serve you to believe you are not appreciated.” The immediate answer, It doesn’t […]
There’s one thing that’s getting in the way of your confidence. You believe it’s either: Your lack of achieving your goals + desires. All the demands placed on your life + schedule. Your lot in life. Actually it’s not any of those life circumstances. It’s what you believe. It’s your thought. It’s a sentence in […]
I have several clients who are strong independant, intelligent women. They are badass leaders in their professional lives. They support so many people, communities and help others rise up. They have created a life where they are not dependent on anyone. They have financial resources to take care of them. Many of them have chosen […]
Recently, I was hiking along the beautiful Amalfi Coast. Actually, I was hiking alongside a cliff. There were lots of rocks and rubble. The interesting thing was that the paths most walked were well-worn and also the most slippery + dangerous. This is a great metaphor for life. How often are the paths most walked […]
When you lead you want to be confident. For example, when you are leading a meeting … do it with confidence. Be confident: In yourself. In what you are going to deliver. In your ability to run the meeting. Then the meeting will be effective! But … you ask … how do you know the […]
I can’t cook. I can’t get organized. I can’t write. Remind you of how you’ve been talking to yourself? Do you focus on what you can’t do instead of what you CAN do? How’s that working for you Are you stuck? Do you beat yourself up because you story fondle all the things you can’t […]
My client was in tears. I asked her, “Do you want to fit in … or belong.” Her response surprised me. “I want to fit in.” Fitting in is an attempt at making yourself who you think others want you to be. Belonging is showing up fully as your complete messy + lovable self. She […]