You don’t pursue what you really want because you’re afraid you’ll be disappointed. Disappointed in the outcome … but more importantly disappointed in yourself. This creates a downward spiral inside of you. You’ll create limiting stories about you + what’s possible for you: It’s not possible for me. See … people really don’t like me. […]
My friend … we all have flaws. We can all: Be difficult. Be too much. Do things that those who love us … don’t really like. For instance … my husband is the love of my life …. and those tea bags he leaves in all the mugs everywhere … Frankly, I don’t like this […]
Think of yourself as a tree. Stay with me now. You are a tree. Solid trunk. Lots of branches and leaves. Now think about your roots. Where are your roots growing? Are they growing in toxic soil? Are they growing in rich + robust soil? Now let’s think about our emotional states as soil. Shame […]
Start with LOVE. Love leads to more LOVE. It’s not selfish or being self absorbed to love yourself. Loving yourself is to your ability to love others. Love yourself first and then you have the ability to extend that love to others in every encounter. When you love yourself, you are filled with LOVE. When […]
There’s a stirring inside of you. You know it’s a painful feeling. You don’t want to feel it. You’ve tried to numb it, and have run out of tv shows to watch. You’ve tried to outrun it, but that’s hard to do when you’re sheltered at home. You’ve tried to busy yourself, but there’s only […]
You’re in constant turmoil over what other people think about you, your choices + actions. You try to hide away so you aren’t seen + criticized. You don’t own your voice and speak your truth. You act the way you are supposed to act to gain other people’s approval. The problem … by worrying about what other […]
There’s a lot of uncertainty in our world right now. With the uncertainty is a lot of information, worry, + panic. Our brains are quickly processing all the information and we have thousands upon thousands of thoughts running through our brain. Many of us are experiencing anxiety. According to Dr. Harriet Lerner, we deal with […]
Last week, one of my clients told me, “my feelings aren’t valid unless someone else takes them seriously.” Is that ABSOLUTELY true? Before we go any further. The answer is YES or NO. I know that will trigger a lot of …”but Koren …” Let’s try this again. Is it ABSOLUTELY true that your feelings […]
MYTH: You can love others more than you love yourself. FACT: Your ability to love others is correlated to your ability to love yourself. Almost a decade ago I read this mind shattering fact in Brené Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection as I was preparing for my first interview with her. Her research showed […]
I seem to talk about this over + over + over again. While we have been culturally programmed to believe it’s nice to people please (AKA – approval whore) it is NOT. When you edit your thoughts, feelings + values to please someone else, you are not letting others get to know the real you. […]