One of my clients had a belief … that her partner must be 100% honest (100% of the time) to be in a loving + connected relationship. As you can imagine, this belief led to difficult and short relationships … until she realized that she herself couldn’t live up to her own demands. Another client […]
You can’t act with confidence when you hate yourself. That would not be confidence, it would be a lie. Let’s look at the definition of confidence: the state of feeling certain about the truth of something. a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. the feeling or belief that […]
I just got off the phone with a client. She was in so much pain. Her 18 year old daughter, a senior in high school, had told her, “You make me feel like I’m never enough!!!” This really works for her daughter, because my client then gets small in their relationship. My client doesn’t want […]
What is success? What do you know for sure? What are your values? What are your priorities? My friend … it’s your job to answer these questions. I realize this may be news to you. You’ve let others define it for you. Your parents. Your friends. Your mentors. Your school. No one gets to write […]
My friend, you’ve been lied to … “Want a better life?” “Beat the crap out of yourself and you’ll get there.” That might ignite some better behavior from you. But then two things happen: Once your adrenaline runs out, this new behavior doesn’t last. Because you learn “it doesn’t really work,” next time you don’t […]
You set a goal. You’re excited, at least for a few minutes. Then you get scared out of your mind … What if it doesn’t happen? What if you aren’t good enough to achieve it? Besides, you aren’t someone who ever really gets what she wants. And that’s why you don’t believe you can achieve […]
My clients work hard. They consider themselves high-achievers. In fact, they take that high achieving and over do it when they don’t believe they are worthy. Worthy of what you ask? Worthy of love. Worthy of belonging. Worthy of simply being enough. This is when my clients dial up this awful feeling of shame and […]
My clients often get in their own way because they’re worried about how they will make others feel. Here’s the thing: You are not responsible for how others feel, you are only responsible for the energy you bring. Years ago, I was at the Daring Way™ training with some colleagues. One of their partners is […]
You have dreams. You have desires about how you live this one precious life. You appreciate the amazing things in your life. But …. not everyone has the capacity to: appreciate what’s amazing. allow what’s amazing into their life. live with the amazing in their life. Why??? Because it’s vulnerable. Amazing is not a 24/7 […]
We all love Brené Brown’s message (well, except for a few people like my husband). When she speaks about vulnerability, it sounds amazing. However, to actually live it is another thing. It really kind of sucks. It’s uncomfortable. It’s messy. It takes time. It takes courage. It isn’t easy. And we often do it wrong […]