My clients often get in their own way because they’re worried about how they will make others feel. Here’s the thing: You are not responsible for how others feel, you are only responsible for the energy you bring. Years ago, I was at the Daring Way™ training with some colleagues. One of their partners is […]
Food. It’s all I thought about. My next meal. Where? When? How? It was seductive. I wanted to eat what I wanted. I didn’t want to follow anyone else’s rules. I tuned out so much in my life, just to think about my next meal. My favorite meal was the “forbidden meal.” It could be […]
You have dreams. You have desires about how you live this one precious life. You appreciate the amazing things in your life. But …. not everyone has the capacity to: appreciate what’s amazing. allow what’s amazing into their life. live with the amazing in their life. Why??? Because it’s vulnerable. Amazing is not a 24/7 […]
The “beauty” is your version of the good life. It’s all those dreams you’ve had for yourself. You believe the pathway is a nice straight line, without any mess. I have an unfortunate truth for you my friend. To get to the beauty in your life…you’ll have to go through life’s mess. There will be […]
Why isn’t your life better? Let’s take a moment to listen to how you talk to yourself. Do you say… “I achieved _____but that’s not as good as ________.” “I haven’t achieved enough, yet?” “I should be further along!” Notice how this makes you feel? Do you feel frustrated with yourself? Do you feel unworthy? […]
Have you let other people define you? They tell you who you are and what you are supposed to do. By the time I was in my twenties I had let other people define me for years. I accepted their words as my own truth. Koren is: Confrontational. Difficult. Scary. Not like other women (yes […]
I no longer hate myself. I now believe in myself. One of my [______] clients told me this recently in a coaching call. This was huge success for her. This is the dream right? To stop hating yourself. To believe in yourself. I can already hear you … you’re telling yourself a story like this, […]
“Approval whoring” does not sound nice. Why not use “people pleasing” instead? People pleasing sounds nice. Women have been culturally programmed to be nice. Women have been culturally programmed to put other people’s needs before their own. Women have been culturally programmed that if we are nice and put people’s needs in front of our […]
When I sit with you … I want to know: What you really believe. Your opinion, even if I totally disagree. What’s rattling inside of your brain. But you are worried about being disliked. You are concerned you will say something stupid. You don’t want to make me mad. (REMINDER: I am responsible for my […]
What is confidence? The belief in yourself + your ability to succeed/accomplish something. Now, what gets in your way and stops you from having confidence in yourself? The standard answer that my clients give me is they don’t have the evidence to be able to believe in themselves. Or they have plenty of evidence of […]