One of the lies we tell ourselves is that if we stay busy enough, we can outrun our pain. The pain comes from the stories inside ourselves. You know … that voice in the back of your head that keeps saying all those mean things about you? Busy is a way to numb and distract […]
We are story making creatures. Our brain is neuro-biologically wired for stories. In the white space of not knowing … our brain creates a story. Usually the stories we tell ourselves create prison walls + keep us away from the possibilities for our lives. My client Natalie had one of those stories. She works in […]
My client used busy as a status symbol for happiness. If she was busy, she thought, she could prove to others she was worthy … and therefore would be happy. Sure, busy fills up that vulnerable white space we covet, but are so afraid of because we are then alone with ourselves. If you don’t […]
Last week I ran a training session for one of my private clients. We did the Dare to Lead™ training workshop based on the work of Brené Brown. My client owns her business with 3 other partners. She often explains to me that she is not the leader, they are all equal partners. But what […]
On my podcast you may have heard me say … Be the LEADER of your life. This is one of my main messages for my clients, the listeners of How She Really Does It and you here reading this. Being the leader of your life is part of what I call “adulting.” When we were […]
I was coaching a new client today. She’s reading Brené Brown’s latest book Dare to Lead. She is struggling with her leadership role as the Executive Director (ED) of a non-profit and one of the dedicated volunteers who is challenging my client’s leadership. After I coached her, she realized that simply reading the information was […]
You’ve learned … vulnerability is the pathway to connection. In fact, you’ve heard me say that 1,000 times on my podcast. So you decided to put it into practice at your next team retreat to cultivate connection with new staff. You are one of the Senior Staffers at the retreat. One night you get other […]
Isn’t it funny? You are a grown ass woman. You have major responsibilities. You are the one that gets things done for others. But you’re waiting for permission. From who? As the responsible, get-shit-done woman, it’s time to give yourself permission … and stop waiting for it to come from someone else. Stop giving your […]
In my twenties I was hired as a head coach and college teacher. This is the kind of “ultimate” job for so many people I know. It was a safe job because tenure was involved. And it came with some of the freedom that comes with academia – “no 9-5.” On the outside this job […]
OMG! Exciting news! Recently I celebrated a significant event in my life (keep reading so you can see how that affects you). 14 years of my show. More importantly….what I am really celebrating was by starting this show in 2006, I finally listened to that voice in the back of my head. “Koren, there’s a […]