Last week I ran a training session for one of my private clients.
We did the Dare to Lead™ training workshop based on the work of Brené Brown.
My client owns her business with 3 other partners.
She often explains to me that she is not the leader, they are all equal partners.
But what she realized over the course of the two day training course … is that believing she isn’t a leader gets in her way of being an effective partner.
When difficult issues come up in her business … she gets small + she does not speak up.
Then she beats herself up and her inner critic tells her “that her partners are so much smarter and way more valuable than her.”
This is nonsense because she realizes those stories are NOT true.
The big problem is … she truly believes she has some good ideas to share to help solve the problems their business is currently facing.
But as long as she is not being the LEADER of her life, she is not showing up for her business partners.
Because of the work we have done together she was able to own her story and love herself during the Dare to Lead™ training.
She didn’t judge herself.
Owning her story
She noticed the patterns she created in the course scenarios and the way she hid … again and again in each of them.
She realized this is what was driving the resentment she felt after a conference call with her partners earlier in the week.
She was filled with judgement of them and resentful.
She did not like how she was feeling or BEing.
The Dare to Lead™ training session later that week helped her unpack more of what’s really going on.
Now she realizes that:
- To not speak up, to stay small is too costly for her.
- She has so much to offer.
- Her partners are supportive.
- She brings value to her partners and their business.
- Each partner has different skills that allow them to be more successful together.
She is clear about what is true for her.
She is clear about how to have courageous conversations with her partners..
Instead of being resentful, she will provide engaged feedback.
She will lead by sharing her values + integrity.
She will offer up her ideas.
She left the training excited about how her business will evolve.
She knows she can do hard things … we’ve already done a lot of other work in her life.
She knows she can make mistakes.
She knows she doesn’t have to know all the answers. They can figure it out together.
P.S. If your business or group needs help coming together, let’s talk about a Dare to Lead training session for you. Get in touch by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.