I know better. I don’t even use the word PERFECT in my daily vocabulary. I notice it when other people use the word. I remember the impossible standards I created with that word. I let it go….. But perfectionism is sneaky. While I own my entire me. While I am my authentic + messy self. […]
On my podcast you may have heard me say … Be the LEADER of your life. This is one of my main messages for my clients, the listeners of How She Really Does It and you here reading this. Being the leader of your life is part of what I call “adulting.” When we were […]
You don’t want to feel it. You’ve tried to outrun it. You’ve tried to numb it. My friend, the thing you don’t want to feel is a painful feeling of anxiety (or replace anxiety with your painful feeling – FEAR, SHAME, SADNESS, etc) … Yes, it’s uncomfortable. But there is a way out that is […]
Seems like it was another lifetime ago. I was skeptical. I was judgmental. I was filled with self-loathing. I was exhausted … And I was hopeful for something better. It was 2001 + I happened upon Oprah interviewing Julia Roberts on her show. I hadn’t watched it since the late ‘80s, I wasn’t that kind […]
When my clients first come to me, they think it’s because of their circumstances – the job, the relationship, the money, the weight. But really, it comes down to the stories they tell themselves. My amazing, smart, brilliant, beautiful, strong, and capable clients come to me with the stories of not being enough. You know […]
Baseball has great lessons for life, even if you’re like me and not a baseball fan. While I never watch baseball on television, on occasion I’ll go with my lifelong Giants fan husband to a game. Even though I don’t love baseball, I love to read lots of baseball books. There are so many good […]
Why isn’t your life better? Let’s take a moment to listen to how you talk to yourself. Do you say… “I achieved _____but that’s not as good as ________.” “I haven’t achieved enough, yet?” “I should be further along!” Notice how this makes you feel? Do you feel frustrated with yourself? Do you feel unworthy? […]
As the leader of your life, YOU get to listen to you … as well as a few trusted advisors. As the leader of your life, YOU get to be authentically you … instead of who others want you to be. As the leader of your life, YOU get to decide how you want to […]
… but I secretly read People. I sneak peaks of the titles while standing in line at the grocery store. I sneak reads of the articles while visiting my dentist. I want to be a person who reads the New Yorker as I want to be perceived as being intelligent and well-read. I don’t want […]
“Approval whoring” does not sound nice. Why not use “people pleasing” instead? People pleasing sounds nice. Women have been culturally programmed to be nice. Women have been culturally programmed to put other people’s needs before their own. Women have been culturally programmed that if we are nice and put people’s needs in front of our […]