My friend … we all have flaws. We can all: Be difficult. Be too much. Do things that those who love us … don’t really like. For instance … my husband is the love of my life …. and those tea bags he leaves in all the mugs everywhere … Frankly, I don’t like this […]
Do you have that friend who is so nice and sweet? She uses loving words. She tells you how amazing you are. She calls you beautiful + amazing. Her words feel so good to you. You are drawn to her because you love how she sees you and, heck, it’s good for your ego. BUT […]
You made a decision. In fact you may not even be aware of this decision. But you’ve been living with it for years!!! You’ve lived with the rule that you can only believe in yourself once others believe in you. Until others believe in you … believing in yourself – is not allowed. You must […]
Did you ever stop to think “does my self-hatred help me get to self-love?” My friend, it doesn’t. Culturally, it’s acceptable to be self-critical … and even self-deprecating. But to be proud of oneself? Never. Not allowed. Self-hatred starts in small, seemingly benign steps … self- criticism self-deprecation Those two small steps lead to self-hatred, […]
You live by rules. You’ve accepted these rules as LAW. You let these rules govern you without questioning. You haven’t even considered these rules may not be TRUE. These rules create pressure inside of you. What rules am I talking about? Be a good girl and you will be enough. Be successful and you will […]
One of my strengths is my ability to be courageous. I work on being courageous in my life, by writing you these emails, by owning my voice, by sharing what I believe with you, my friends and my family. Often times my own family can be the hardest place to show up and own my […]
What if you committed to one personal development book for a year? This means you, read the entire book, re-read it again and used it as a resource. You would have to actually apply the information you read and USE the nuggets of wisdom. Where would you be in 12 months? What I know for […]
In my twenties I was hired as a head coach and college teacher. This is the kind of “ultimate” job for so many people I know. It was a safe job because tenure was involved. And it came with some of the freedom that comes with academia – “no 9-5.” On the outside this job […]
Think of yourself as a tree. Stay with me now. You are a tree. Solid trunk. Lots of branches and leaves. Now think about your roots. Where are your roots growing? Are they growing in toxic soil? Are they growing in rich + robust soil? Now let’s think about our emotional states as soil. Shame […]
Often my clients struggle with self-confidence in either their professional or personal lives. They find themselves confident in one part of their life but not in others. They believe the solution is to work harder to become more confident in the other parts. They’ve followed the promise of achieving X and the result will be […]