Compassion is the biggest motivator for change. Compassion is the pathway to growth … and to blowing your mind about what’s possible for YOU. This is counter to the culture. We were taught to beat ourselves up. To hate on ourselves. To make ourselves small. And then, maybe, you will achieve! That’s totally wrong. And […]
Does the judgment of other people stop you in your tracks? Are you afraid of being judged, and “stay small” in your life? Here’s the thing … no matter what, people will judge you. In fact, it’s not really other people’s judgment we are afraid of. It’s that their judgment could be true. Instead […]
You can’t act with confidence when you hate yourself. That would not be confidence, it would be a lie. Let’s look at the definition of confidence: the state of feeling certain about the truth of something. a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. the feeling or belief that […]
Shit storms is one of my favorite phrases. I live an amazing life. Truly I do. But I also acknowledge there are many shit storms throughout my day/week. By acknowledging these shit storms, I am able to own my story and have less pain from my reality. If I believed these situations should not be […]
In my swimming world, I am faced with a lot of obstacles surrounding “the story of swim meets.” Years ago, Dan Pink and I had a discussion about swim meets. He did not like them, “you spent all day and if you weren’t paying attention, could miss your child’s 14 second race.” Unfortunately, while Dan […]
You think you’re a fraud. You don’t know how to show up in your life because of this story. So you hide away. You don’t show up. You don’t speak out. You don’t create what you want in your life. Let’s take a look at the definition of fraud: “A person or thing intended to […]
ALERT: You are an adult. You no longer need someone else’s permission. You can give yourself permission. Stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to DO, to BE, to HAVE what you want. As an adult you get to do that. Give yourself permission to: Ask for what you want. Make a mistake. […]
We are story making creatures. Our brain is neuro-biologically wired for stories. In the white space of not knowing … our brain creates a story. Usually the stories we tell ourselves create prison walls + keep us away from the possibilities for our lives. My client Natalie had one of those stories. She works in […]
What do you want? One of the biggest problems that my new clients struggle with is that they have no idea what they want. Or they make the answer to that question above too vague. I want to make as much money as possible. I want to be living the dream. I want to […]
There’s an internal rumbling. It’s uncomfortable. It’s painful. All you want to do is get rid of it. You do that by complaining. You find short-term relief by letting it out. By complaining, you’re offloading your pain onto someone else. It feels good … kind of like throwing up after a big ole’ tummy ache. […]