The one thing I know for sure is that we all want (and need) a place to belong. One of the things I work hard to create in every environment I’m a part of is a space where people can be exactly who they are. A space to belong. No fitting in to what others […]
This is how I used to do it: When I was in pain, I would pitch a tent, build a campfire and invite people (actually anyone willing to hear all the gory details at length) to sit with me. I was a great story fondler, going over + over the details of how I was […]
Choose your words carefully. Your language will have an effect on your energy and can determine the results in your life. I am not talking about your word(s) for the year. I am talking about the words you use in your day to day language. The other day, my client told me she was tired […]
You want to connect. So do I. In fact, you and I are hardwired for connection. But we don’t want to be vulnerable or expose ourselves to emotional risk. And vulnerability is the only pathway to connection. It’s the oldest Catch 22. And also the most painful. The key is courageous conversations. Saying the one […]
A listener once sent me an email asking me to stop using the word whore as it was derogatory. The old me was an approval whore. The old me would have immediately agreed with her without even considering what I thought. But the new me is a recovering approval whore, so I play by […]
How to protect yourself when someone is trying to hurt you. When someone is in their own shame storm they are prone to try to hurt you or hook you. When this happens first off notice how you are feeling. Do you feel shame? Do you want to react by fleeing, fighting or freezing? That would […]
Happy 7th Anniversary to us!!! How She Really Does It has been on the airwaves + traveling the internet since October 2006. Wow! What started out as a small inner quest has grown into a life changing event. Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey. Starting out 7 years ago, I never imagined […]
This fall I had the honor to work with a group of women. They came to learn and improve themselves. They also had different fears or concerns that made them apprehensive about this commitment they were making. What happened at the end of our time together? They were shocked by how far they had come. […]
I am! I am always looking for the possibilities that exist outside of mainstream thought. Many of us believe there are the standard solutions in life. But I always ask myself “is there more? Is there something else? Is there another way?” What I have found are many different ways to do things and plenty […]
It has been a while since I posted. Summer has been full and busy. Now school has started for the kids, fall is on it’s way and life has quieted down a bit. I hope your summer was fabulous. Mine was amazing, full and busier then ever. I will be posting some of the things […]