Choose your words carefully. Your language will have an effect on your energy and can determine the results in your life.
I am not talking about your word(s) for the year.
I am talking about the words you use in your day to day language.
The other day, my client told me she was tired of being the “bad guy” by holding the boundaries in her company. Hmmm.
When you say you are the “bad guy” how do you feel? For me, I feel shame (the voice of I am not enough, there is something wrong with me). I also make being the “bad guy” mean that I am a “bitch” and too much.
When I believe those stories (and yes they are all stories) I either retreat and hide away or I puff up big. And I am already a big person (5’11”). The problem is that the boundaries are not really upheld with either of these tactics. When I retreat the boundaries get walked all over. When I puff up, others tend to ignore, rebel, get scared, or now have evidence that indeed I am a “bitch.”
Instead what if you believe you are an advocate for your team with boundaries? How different does that feel? For me, it feels lighter. For me I feel empowered. When I feel empowered I can step into my leadership role without drama. I can ask for what I want. I can listen to the other side. I become effective.
What about you? What words do you notice that create crappy feelings?
Notice and then choose a better word that creates a better feeling so you can be more effective in your life.
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