“What’s wrong with me?” “Why am I not doing what I should be doing?” Two reasons there’s a gap between what you know and what you do: The questions above lead to self-hatred … which is rooted in the feeling of SHAME. When rooted in SHAME, you either hide away or beat the crap out of yourself. This […]
The right way is a show stopper, especially during this time of COVID-19. My clients are often trying to figure out the right way to: Parent Be a friend Find their next life partner Figure out the next chapter in their career Make decisions during this time of COVID-19 This right way only stalls them […]
How often are you seeking the wisdom of others? Of course I would be hypocritical if I told you … you’re not supposed to seek out others wisdom. As the host of the How She Really Does It podcast since 2006, I’ve done several hundred interviews with other people … seeking out their wisdom. […]
Recently, I was hiking along the beautiful Amalfi Coast. Actually, I was hiking alongside a cliff. There were lots of rocks and rubble. The interesting thing was that the paths most walked were well-worn and also the most slippery + dangerous. This is a great metaphor for life. How often are the paths most walked […]
My clients are smart, hard working overachievers. They often identify themselves as high achievers. Because they “know” that overachiever is not a “good” title to have. They are soooooooooo hard on themselves. On the outside they are perceived as having it made. They’re “Successful!” They are perceived as being confident. Oh my friend, on the […]
Are you always saying you’re sorry for no REAL reason? If yes, stop that right now! This is part of the cultural programming that has taught women it’s their fault. First, is there anything you need to be apologizing for? Second, dig deep here … do you really mean it or are those words just […]
Recently while talking to someone … they asked me about the connection between being ENOUGH and being a BADASS version of YOU … He believed “being ENOUGH was settling. Instead of settling shouldn’t we do more?” That’s always the answer for an overachiever. Do more, do more, do more. The problem … doing more is […]
My clients often put up a lot of resistance to committing to their best case scenario. They tend to throw a lot of “but …” sentences out there, reasons why they can’t possibly commit. To help them overcome this resistance, I share ideas about committing to the best case scenario, while also managing risk. During […]
Shame is what threatens your place of love + belonging. When you struggle with shame — and we all do — you can: Try to outrun it. However, it is always there. Wherever you are, there it is, inside of you. Sell yourself out in order to please others in your life. While we think […]
You want connection. You want belonging. You want to be seen. Yet, the idea of having courageous conversations makes you want to go into hiding. I’m here to tell you … Courageous conversations are the key element to finding connection, belonging, + being seen. By having these conversations, you find out much quicker who your […]