I was coaching a new client today. She’s reading Brené Brown’s latest book Dare to Lead. She is struggling with her leadership role as the Executive Director (ED) of a non-profit and one of the dedicated volunteers who is challenging my client’s leadership. After I coached her, she realized that simply reading the information was […]
You’ve been around here listening to the podcast How She Really Does It: The Place Where Inspiration + Possibility Meet for a while now. You’ve been an engaged reader of my SUNDAY LOVE email. You know what to do. I’ve given you the coaching tools … yet you still aren’t doing it. You don’t make […]
You have battled yourself. You have tried to assassinate your flawed self, hoping to resurrect a “good person.” You’ve gone to war with yourself by attacking yourself with hatred. But it didn’t work. Stop the battle. Stop the assassination. Stop the war with yourself, it will never work. HOW TO STOP THE WAR WITH YOURSELF […]
You know self-compassion is what you’re supposed to do Self-compassion is the antidote to shame. Self-compassion is the pathway for you to cultivate your own worthiness. BUT … you suck at being self-compassionate! So, what do you do? CAUTION: This is the beginning of a downward spiral of self-beating and self-hatred, only getting you further […]
Seems like it was another lifetime ago. I was skeptical. I was judgmental. I was filled with self-loathing. I was exhausted … And I was hopeful for something better. It was 2001 + I happened upon Oprah interviewing Julia Roberts on her show. I hadn’t watched it since the late ‘80s, I wasn’t that kind […]
Does any of this sound familiar? You’ve achieved great success in your career … but you still second guess yourself. You’ve created a good professional life … but your personal life doesn’t match. You’re smart and have the degrees to prove it … but you still believe you are a fraud. On the outside you […]
You think to create your best life, you must leave your marriage. My clients think the same thing. While I’m not a marriage counselor, I’ve helped heal a lot of painful marriages. You see, we are story making creatures. Our brains love stories. Our brains are fantastic at writing a drama. And if your brain […]
Believing in YOU is vulnerable. There’s a ton of risk …. what will others think??? We’ve been programmed to not be “too much.” My friend … believing in yourself is not being too much. Think about all those little toddlers who believe in themselves. We adore them. They believe in their ability to crawl, to […]
We’ve been culturally programmed to pursue the promise. If I do X, then Y will occur. EXAMPLE PROMISES If you are a good girl, you’ll have a good life. If you’re highly educated, you + your family will be safe. If you’re perfect, you’ll finally be good enough. If you’re good enough, you’ll find a […]
A while back I wrote about wanting to be a person who read The New Yorker…but that I really wanted to read People magazine. I gave myself permission to get a subscription to People magazine. It’s been a fascinating experiment. At first I was so excited when it came in the mail. But it quickly […]