I had it all wrong. I thought I had to be better than I could possibly be. I thought I had to achieve great success. I thought I had to be perfect. Then, if I could achieve all of these things, I’d be loved. I would finally be worthy of love + belonging. The thing […]
You think you’re a fraud. You don’t know how to show up in your life because of this story. So you hide away. You don’t show up. You don’t speak out. You don’t create what you want in your life. Let’s take a look at the definition of fraud: “A person or thing intended to […]
ALERT: You are an adult. You no longer need someone else’s permission. You can give yourself permission. Stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to DO, to BE, to HAVE what you want. As an adult you get to do that. Give yourself permission to: Ask for what you want. Make a mistake. […]
We are story making creatures. Our brain is neuro-biologically wired for stories. In the white space of not knowing … our brain creates a story. Usually the stories we tell ourselves create prison walls + keep us away from the possibilities for our lives. My client Natalie had one of those stories. She works in […]
My client used busy as a status symbol for happiness. If she was busy, she thought, she could prove to others she was worthy … and therefore would be happy. Sure, busy fills up that vulnerable white space we covet, but are so afraid of because we are then alone with ourselves. If you don’t […]
A couple of obstacles parents have told me about recently … “My daughter didn’t want to put on her new suit for swim practice.” “My teen wasn’t happy about getting out of bed for the swim meet.” What causes people pain is the belief that obstacles shouldn’t be happening. While the parent of a teen […]
You’re not sure. Whether to stay in your marriage, to stay in your job, rebuild that connection in your family, or to finally lose weight after so many failed attempts. Sure, you can quit. That would be fine. Get a divorce. Find a new job. Put up walls with your family and call them all […]
I’m blown away at the life I’ve created for myself. If you don’t know my story, I was a girl who once believed “she was a loser born on loser street.” I grew up poor in an alcoholic home. My parents really loved us … however there was just a lot, a whole lot, of […]
I help my clients stop pursuing living a perfect life and instead live the life they want on their terms. Here’s the problem… perfection is the birthplace of shame. You know that awful feeling inside that tells you: You are bad! You are not enough! There’s something wrong with you! You don’t belong here! […]
Do you overindulge in the drama of your life? When a friend calls, do you start the conversation with what’s not going well? Most people live in the swampland of shame, because they don’t know any better. Instead of focusing on where they want to go, they talk about how horrible it is to live […]