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White Knight syndrome [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="15519" ]Do you ever wish someone would swoop in and save you from your life? Maybe work has been especially hard lately, or you’re going through a difficult time in a relationship. It’s tempting to want someone to come take care of you. We all do this. I call this White Knight syndrome – wanting someone […]

Perfection is sneaky [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="15124" ]We’ve been culturally programmed to believe that being perfect will make us safe. Valued. Successful. Loved. Perfection isn’t the source of any of those feelings. It’s an enemy of them. Chasing perfection is exhausting. It’s the birthplace of shame, and instead of making you feel valued, loved, or successful, it will put you under constant […]

The lens we look through [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="15034" ]If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. This quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer is one of my favorite sayings in the world. It shifted things for me in some really amazing ways, and I think it may be helpful for you, too. This episode uses that quote as […]

Burnout… the cause [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="14832" ]Burnout is a really popular word these days and an even more popular worry. Parents worry that their kids are going to get burnt out on sports, and employees worry about feeling burnt out at work and needing to leave a perfectly good job. I think these worries about burnout are more often based in […]

Stop settling for “as good as it gets” [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="14766" ]I’ve never liked the idea that so many of us look at our life and think, “Well, this is as good as it gets.” I used to be one of those people. And now that I’m not, the idea of settling for a life that’s just “good enough” is scary. So often we settle for other people’s […]

Change is possible for you [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="14657" ]Change is difficult. Not only are you often working to reshape old habits and create something entirely new – you have to defeat obstacles in your own brain, too. We often get in our own way when we’re trying to change by “story fondling” and looking for negative evidence about our abilities. Instead of focusing […]

Success [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="14539" ]When you hear the word “success,” what image does it conjure up for you? How does it make you feel? The concept of success is supposed to be motivating, but for many of us, it triggers tons of doubt, shame, and negative self-talk. I have some good news about success: it can look like whatever […]

How to cultivate confidence [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="14408" ]I’ve been traveling a lot this month, connecting with listeners, friends, and clients from all over the country. It’s been wonderful seeing my community and discussing things with you in person. Something that’s come up consistently throughout my travels is the topic of confidence. Many of you have asked me, “How do I cultivate confidence? […]

How to stop approval whoring [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="14336" ]Today’s topic – how to stop approval whoring – is one that has been controversial to my listeners before. Many people use the term “people pleasing” for the kind of behavior I’m talking about on today’s episode, but I’ve got some good reasons for not using that terminology. I think the phrase “people pleasing” sounds a bit […]

Are you having courageous conversations? [DEEP DIVE]

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[podcast_episode episode="14247" ]Although we all want to connect with other people and to feel like we belong, this looks different for everybody: maybe you’re an introvert and prefer connecting with a small group in an intimate setting. Or, maybe you’re an extrovert and you love bouncing around a party, having conversations with all sorts of people. You […]

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