Lately I’ve noticed this voice in the back of my head. It’s been there a long time. I just wasn’t aware of the message I was listening to. This voice likes me to believe “it’s all on me!!!!” It really doesn’t matter what “it” is. Before I became aware of this voice, I often acted […]
I seem to talk about this over + over + over again. While we have been culturally programmed to believe it’s nice to people please (AKA – approval whore) it is NOT. When you edit your thoughts, feelings + values to please someone else, you are not letting others get to know the real you. […]
How often are you seeking the wisdom of others? Of course I would be hypocritical if I told you … you’re not supposed to seek out others wisdom. As the host of the How She Really Does It podcast since 2006, I’ve done several hundred interviews with other people … seeking out their wisdom. […]
Recently, I was hiking along the beautiful Amalfi Coast. Actually, I was hiking alongside a cliff. There were lots of rocks and rubble. The interesting thing was that the paths most walked were well-worn and also the most slippery + dangerous. This is a great metaphor for life. How often are the paths most walked […]
When you lead you want to be confident. For example, when you are leading a meeting … do it with confidence. Be confident: In yourself. In what you are going to deliver. In your ability to run the meeting. Then the meeting will be effective! But … you ask … how do you know the […]
You make a phone call. The other person answers (your friend, sister, mother, brother …). And … you dive right into all your problems and frustrations. You start verbally vomiting. It’s immediate. It follows when they say “hello.” You start talking right away. Without cultivating a connection with “how are you? I’m going through a […]
People often think life is an either/or. Either you sacrifice yourself at work to create the career you want … and your personal life struggles. Or you give up your career to have the family you want. While those are indeed two options, they aren’t the only options. Doing good work does NOT mean you […]
I can’t cook. I can’t get organized. I can’t write. Remind you of how you’ve been talking to yourself? Do you focus on what you can’t do instead of what you CAN do? How’s that working for you Are you stuck? Do you beat yourself up because you story fondle all the things you can’t […]
My client was in tears. I asked her, “Do you want to fit in … or belong.” Her response surprised me. “I want to fit in.” Fitting in is an attempt at making yourself who you think others want you to be. Belonging is showing up fully as your complete messy + lovable self. She […]
I’m rather fortunate. I’m a female born in the United States of America. While my family was poor, I was always safe and out of harm’s way from the dangers of the world. Today, as a middle-aged woman, I live in an affluent, educated, + relatively safe community. I realize I’m lucky compared to so […]