Many years ago I was doing a consult with a potential client. I asked her about the end result she wanted to achieve. She told me she wanted to be her own best friend. At first I thought that was a bit “fluffy.” Then I realized how wrong I was and how valuable it is […]
You did what you were told to do! You worked hard. You did what others wanted you to do. You put others first. You cared about other people’s opinions over your own. You became highly educated to prove your worthiness. You over (and over and over) achieve at work in order to prove your worthiness. […]
We are always a work in progress. One of the big lies we’ve been told is “one day – out there – we will arrive.” Then, when that someday arrives, we will finally be good enough and can rest. HA! You must practice becoming the next version of yourself and also rest. Hence, why you […]
I grew up poor. I thought having “the things I was supposed to have” would allow me to finally be worthy of love + belonging. This was unfortunately my thinking at the ripe old age of 10 years old. Wow! Back in the 1980s, Minnetonka Moccasin shoes were a must have item for girls. I […]
When my clients first come to me, they think it’s because of their circumstances – the job, the relationship, the money, the weight. But really, it comes down to the stories they tell themselves. My amazing, smart, brilliant, beautiful, strong, and capable clients come to me with the stories of not being enough. You know […]
Intellectually, you understand it’s important for you to take care of yourself … but you still find yourself prioritizing pleasing other people over your own needs (I call this “approval whoring”). You want to be your own best friend … but you spend a lot of time criticizing and hating yourself. You want to be […]
My clients often get in their own way because they’re worried about how they will make others feel. Here’s the thing: You are not responsible for how others feel, you are only responsible for the energy you bring. Years ago, I was at the Daring Way™ training with some colleagues. One of their partners is […]
You say “YES” when you really want to say “NO.” You are afraid that if you don’t “people please” people will leave you. Here’s the thing. You’re so busy considering what other people think of you + what they think you should do. That you haven’t given thought or space to what you want to […]
Food. It’s all I thought about. My next meal. Where? When? How? It was seductive. I wanted to eat what I wanted. I didn’t want to follow anyone else’s rules. I tuned out so much in my life, just to think about my next meal. My favorite meal was the “forbidden meal.” It could be […]
Baseball has great lessons for life, even if you’re like me and not a baseball fan. While I never watch baseball on television, on occasion I’ll go with my lifelong Giants fan husband to a game. Even though I don’t love baseball, I love to read lots of baseball books. There are so many good […]