I grew up poor. I thought having “the things I was supposed to have” would allow me to finally be worthy of love + belonging. This was unfortunately my thinking at the ripe old age of 10 years old. Wow! Back in the 1980s, Minnetonka Moccasin shoes were a must have item for girls. I […]
Intellectually, you understand it’s important for you to take care of yourself … but you still find yourself prioritizing pleasing other people over your own needs (I call this “approval whoring”). You want to be your own best friend … but you spend a lot of time criticizing and hating yourself. You want to be […]
Baseball has great lessons for life, even if you’re like me and not a baseball fan. While I never watch baseball on television, on occasion I’ll go with my lifelong Giants fan husband to a game. Even though I don’t love baseball, I love to read lots of baseball books. There are so many good […]
The “beauty” is your version of the good life. It’s all those dreams you’ve had for yourself. You believe the pathway is a nice straight line, without any mess. I have an unfortunate truth for you my friend. To get to the beauty in your life…you’ll have to go through life’s mess. There will be […]
I used to think an obstacle meant “this is not possible for me.” Obstacles used to be my dream killers. Now I realize obstacles are something to overcome. Obstacles are the pathway to achieving what my heart desires. As I solve each obstacle I learn, grow, become resilient + move towards my goal. However, this […]
Do you second guess yourself? Do you not tell others what you think, because you are afraid you are wrong, silly, or even stupid? Are you willing to no longer tolerate this behavior? Are you ready to be YOU? What’s the relationship you want to have with yourself? You realize your lack of self-trust is […]
… but I secretly read People. I sneak peaks of the titles while standing in line at the grocery store. I sneak reads of the articles while visiting my dentist. I want to be a person who reads the New Yorker as I want to be perceived as being intelligent and well-read. I don’t want […]
I no longer hate myself. I now believe in myself. One of my [______] clients told me this recently in a coaching call. This was huge success for her. This is the dream right? To stop hating yourself. To believe in yourself. I can already hear you … you’re telling yourself a story like this, […]
Isn’t it funny? You are a grown ass woman. You have major responsibilities. You are the one that gets things done for others. But you’re waiting for permission. From who? As the responsible, get-shit-done woman, it’s time to give yourself permission … and stop waiting for it to come from someone else. Stop giving your […]
The conversations with clients + my AquaMonster parents, usually turn to their fears around raising their kids. They worry that they’re raising their kids “wrong” … they worry about messing up their kids … they worry about something bad happening to their child and that that something will define the rest of their child’s life. […]