Are you mad at yourself? You know better, but you just aren’t doing better? It’s time to forgive yourself. Yes, forgive. Forgiveness does not mean what you did was okay. To forgive yourself is to let those painful stories die. In order to do this, you must first own the story. Own what you did […]
Years ago a friend of mine was going on her dream trip to Italy. She was so excited. She couldn’t wait to go and experience her upcoming holiday. She kept telling me this was a “once in a lifetime trip!!!” WHAT???? She was 35 years old. Did she really think this was her one + […]
At the beginning we’re often excited. At the end, we’re trying to figure out where the time went. But what about the middle? It is so often ignored. We take it for granted. We become numb. We don’t appreciate it because we believe there will always be more time. Until the day comes and our […]
The quality of the questions you ask affects the quality of your life. Your question is a window to the answer you seek. Your question helps your brain focus on where to look for an answer. I often get asked: “Am I normal?” “Is this normal?” When either of these questions are asked … the […]
I didn’t want to waste the time.. Because I had a belief I needed to get home. But, did I really not have some time??? I wanted to go and explore. I didn’t have to be home. I had the freedom. I had the time. I had the white space. I gave myself permission to […]
You don’t want to be selfish. You’ve been taught — or rather, culturally programmed — in order to be a good enough wife and mother you must put everyone else ahead of YOU. In fact, your teens are more than happy to ensure this message on a daily basis. At work, your supposed to be […]
So much talk about setting goals. “Set your goals to obtain them.” But there is more to it … Sometimes we forget that setting goals is only one part of the process. There are also obstacles to achieving one’s goals. And one of those obstacles is to answer the question to “who is it you […]
My clients are smart, hard working overachievers. They often identify themselves as high achievers. Because they “know” that overachiever is not a “good” title to have. They are soooooooooo hard on themselves. On the outside they are perceived as having it made. They’re “Successful!” They are perceived as being confident. Oh my friend, on the […]
Are you always saying you’re sorry for no REAL reason? If yes, stop that right now! This is part of the cultural programming that has taught women it’s their fault. First, is there anything you need to be apologizing for? Second, dig deep here … do you really mean it or are those words just […]
It’s all around you. The messages that have told you time and time again. Your worthiness comes from your achievements. My friend it’s time to STOP this harmful cultural programming. We’ve been lied to. And these lies are what’s getting in the way of you obtaining your goals. I see this so often. Here are […]