Do you overindulge in the drama of your life? When a friend calls, do you start the conversation with what’s not going well? Most people live in the swampland of shame, because they don’t know any better. Instead of focusing on where they want to go, they talk about how horrible it is to live […]
Listen carefully. People say the meanest things about themselves all the time. There’s just too much fat here to lift my leg to my chest. I’m lazy. I didn’t want to because it’s too hard and I’m not tough enough. I take the path of least resistance because I’m not capable. I’m irritated with myself […]
… but I secretly read People. I sneak peaks of the titles while standing in line at the grocery store. I sneak reads of the articles while visiting my dentist. I want to be a person who reads the New Yorker as I want to be perceived as being intelligent and well-read. I don’t want […]
“What’s wrong with me?” “Why am I not doing what I should be doing?” Two reasons there’s a gap between what you know and what you do: The questions above lead to self-hatred … which is rooted in the feeling of SHAME. When rooted in SHAME, you either hide away or beat the crap out […]
There’s one thing that’s getting in the way of your confidence. You believe it’s either: Your lack of achieving your goals + desires. All the demands placed on your life + schedule. Your lot in life. Actually it’s not any of those life circumstances. It’s what you believe. It’s your thought. It’s a sentence in […]
You have spent your life being who you thought you were supposed to be. You said what you believed others wanted to hear. You have been hiding your true self from us. Here’s the thing, I want to know what you have to say. I want to know who you are inside. Please stop hiding. […]
MYTH: You can love others more than you love yourself. FACT: Your ability to love others is correlated to your ability to love yourself. Almost a decade ago I read this mind shattering fact in Brené Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection as I was preparing for my first interview with her. Her research in […]
Why do we care about other people’s judgement? Because it threatens our belonging … or so we believe. We are hardwired for connection. We want a place to belong. Judgement does NOT feel safe. Judgement is rooted in SHAME…you know that damn voice of “not enough.” Here’s the thing, other people’s judgement has nothing to […]