In my twenties I was hired as a head coach and college teacher.
This is the kind of “ultimate” job for so many people I know.
It was a safe job because tenure was involved.
And it came with some of the freedom that comes with academia – “no 9-5.”
On the outside this job looked like the best thing that ever happened for me.
I was a head coach … the boss of my programs.
I was also a teacher (professor by contract… YIKES).
But it really wasn’t the best thing that happened for me.
It was the worst thing.
I wasn’t supposed to get the position.
When I applied I figured I was too young and inexperienced.
But I submitted my application figuring it would be good practice to get an interview.
BUT … I got the job.
And then I took it, even though I didn’t really want it.
I took it and stayed.
I figured I wanted too much out of life and frankly this is as good as it gets.
I just needed to appreciate it more and then I’d be fulfilled.
I really did try and make the situation better.
I actually worked really hard and built successful teams.
I created one of the first online general education courses in California that was widely popular as well as serving hundreds of students each year..
I thought if I worked harder it would take away the discomfort of knowing this wasn’t my dream but someone else’s.
I hated my life … but dreamed of retirement and having 40 years of service credit.
Then one day … things changed.
Employment agreements that had been made between myself and the college administration had been changed/forgotten.
I felt trapped + powerless + I only had 29 years left to get my retirement.
I was so mad at the changes.
Why did they do this to me.
Why was this happening to me?
Until one day … I had an epiphany.
I could choose. Do I want to stay or leave?
I had a choice … WHAT???
I thought about it.
I talked it over with my husband.
I made a decision to leave after the semester ended.
I felt free.
Sure I was afraid.
But 10 years later I …
- Sit here and am so glad that the administrators made the changes to our agreement.
- Realize that it happened for me, not against me.
- Am no longer settling for this is as good as it gets.
- Am deliberately living my life.
I understand that the best thing that happened for me was realizing that I got to choose my path.
What’s the best thing that ever happened for you?
smiling,
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