Ingredients vs. scripts for relationships [DEEP DIVE]

Many of you tuned in to last week’s episode and really liked the concept of having relationships that rise up to meet you. But I also know some of you were having challenges with this concept so I’m going to dive deeper into it today.

Having a relationship that rises up to meet you does not mean you have a script or rules for others to follow. It doesn’t mean you have ultimatums for how they need to act or else they’re out of your circle. 

In general, scripts aren’t useful in relationships. I know this because I have been a lifelong scriptwriter and used to feel very justified in how I expected people to act without actually letting them in on the script. 

Instead, I invite you to think about the ingredients you want in your relationships. As Karen Marie Moning says, who and what we surround ourselves with is who and what we become. Who do you want to become and who do you want in your circle?

On today’s show, I’m showing you why it’s much better to have an ingredient list than scripts for your relationships. As you cultivate relationships that rise up to meet you, be aware of what you actually value and what you will no longer tolerate. I’m sharing my ingredient list, my experience with writing scripts, and how you can get clear on what you want from your relationships too.

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

• What a script is and why you need to let go of them.
• How we make scripts mean something about ourselves.
• The ingredients I look for in relationships.
• How you can create your own ingredient list for your relationships.
• The importance of appreciating the ingredients already in your current relationships.

RESOURCES FOR YOU

• Cultivate relationships that rise up with you [DEEP DIVE]
• Scripts are toxic for your relationships [DEEP DIVE]
• Director, Producer, Writer of Other People [MINISODE]
• Mindset Journal 
• Get my on demand virtual workshop on Trusting Yourself!
• Sign up for my new course: How to Feel Grounded Confidence
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